Too Tired to Care

Joshua Waulk

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During my law enforcement career, my comrades and I were repeatedly instructed to use caution when responding to an emergency call because, as the saying went, you were no good to anyone and a drain on available resources if you were involved in a vehicle crash on the way.

In a similar fashion, biblical counselors, like first responders and other crisis care agents, are susceptible to a phenomenon known as compassion fatigue. Continue reading

Finishing our Course with Joy

Ken Long

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I am at the age when a number of my friends are retiring. They have worked faithfully at their vocations for decades. But their bodies are showing signs of aging, and their minds are not as sharp as they use to be. As they transition to retirement, they are stepping out of roles to which they gave their strongest years. Now they find themselves with time along with an adequate body and mind to devote to something new. These Christians are entering this next phase asking, “What does God want me to do now?” Continue reading

Restoring Peace in the Christian Home

Jeff Forrey

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Two couples in very different stages of life. And yet both of them had one thing in common: Their homes were being ripped apart by conflict. My challenge, as their counselor, was to figure out ways to help each of them restore peace in their homes. Here are a couple of tools I’ve used to help couples like them. Continue reading

Avoiding Assumicide

Judy Dabler

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Developing intimacy in marriage requires effort. Making assumptions of one another, without first testing assumptions with questions, damages marital closeness. A commitment to keep working to learn intimacy building skills while remaining open to one’s spouse requires trusting God. Continue reading

The Value of Shattered Expectations (Part 2)

Jeff Forrey

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In this post, we continue looking at an issue that is often central to change in our counselees: shattering their unbiblical assumptions about life and the Lord. Using Matthew’s account of Jesus’ triumphal entry, we are reminded of how much Jesus’ life shattered the expectations many Jews had held about God and his plan for them. Those wrong assumptions needed to be replaced in order for them to experience the blessings of a relationship with him. As you read this post and reflect on Matthew 21, we hope you will see how Jesus’ ministry might alter old ways of thinking—whether in yourself or your counselees—so that you are open to being further conformed to his image. Continue reading

The Value of Shattered Expectations (Part 1)

Jeff Forrey

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In this post and the next, we will look at an issue that is often central to change in our counselees: shattering their unbiblical assumptions about life and the Lord. As you read, we invite you to consider how Jesus’ ministry should alter old ways of thinking—whether in yourself or your counselees—so that you are open to being further conformed to his image. Continue reading

Being Beautiful. . . in God’s Eyes

Lilly Park

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The desire to be beautiful may be a common element of human experience, but it’s unfulfilling when it becomes a primary life goal. The world is unrelenting in offering advice and methods, but which one is worth our time and money? As Christians, we need to remember what true beauty is, which can be defined by God alone. Continue reading

Biblical Counseling Thrives in the Land of the Eagle

Marie Notcheva

BC-Albania

For this post, Marie interviewed Tim Pasma, Brad Brandt, and Sue and Blair Alvidrez in order to share with us how biblical counseling is growing in Albania.

“As a young person, reading about Albania fascinated me because the nation claimed to be 100% atheist,” said Timothy Pasma, Senior Pastor at LaRue Baptist Church in Ohio. Continue reading

Self-Care and the Biblical Counselor

Eliza Jane Huie

Eliza Jane Huie

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Counselors give significant amount of their time and energy to their calling. At its very core, biblical counseling is a call to be an ambassador of reconciliation by walking with distraught people through trials and suffering and holding out gospel hope to them. Furthermore, it is a challenging calling. If you are a doing any type of counseling, formal or informal, you need to be very intentional to also take care of yourself. Continue reading

Going It Alone (Part 3)

Jennifer McGehee

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This is the third of three posts highlighting the difficulties, responsibilities, and encouragements to Christians who are in “unequally yoked” marriages. Today’s post examines the hope and encouragement for the Christian spouse. Continue reading