Growing in Discernment (Part 1)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

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In this post and the next, we consider the important topic of discernment—and crucial element in wisdom. In the Information Age, it is necessary for biblical counselors to be able to critically interact with psychological claims that come to us through books, magazines, television programs, and the Internet. Continue reading

Who Will Take the First Step? Godly Initiative during Nasty Conflicts

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

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Jack and Jill fight often. He gets angry and lashes out. When he lashes out, she pulls back. She gets depressed. She doubts herself and God. (“Why would you put me in this marriage?”) They are humble enough to ask for help. That’s a fairly big deal, because too many couples who fight wait far too long to draw others in! How would you help them? Continue reading

The Limitations of “Compatibility” for Marriage

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

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Too often we treat compatibility as it were a noun (something two people share – like a cupcake or eye color) instead of a verb (something two people do – like synchronized swimming or conversing). There is a big, often overlooked, difference between compatibility as a noun and as a verb. Continue reading

On Counseling and Comedy

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

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I’ve never been mistaken for a comedian. I like humor and I try to be funny, but that’s just it… I try. Most of my jokes are very dry and when people eventually get them they moan more than laugh. All of that is to say, I am venturing off of my “home turf” with this analogy.

I believe there is a common mistake that is made by both young comedians and young counselors – they jump to the point/ punch line too quickly. Continue reading

The Soul of a Child

Amy Baker

Amy Baker

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It has been my privilege to counsel an 11 year old recently who has abuse in her past. While we often think that children need a different approach to counseling (and we certainly want to tailor our teaching and interaction to the understanding of the child), it’s my observation that children struggle with the same desires adults struggle with, they are lured by the same lies that adults fall prey to, and they find hope in the same source adults find hope – in our Lord and Savior. Continue reading

Responding to the Resistant

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

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If you’ve been in ministry for a while, I’m sure you’ve encountered hurting people who resist biblical counsel. They are quick to say something like, “Yeah, I know that, but …” Assuming relevant Scripture is offered, why wouldn’t a Christian be eager to receive God’s Word? Let’s consider some possible reasons. Continue reading