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10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart

November 26, 2012

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10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart

According the Bible, Satan prowls around like a lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8), but many times, he probably doesn’t have to do that much. I wonder if sometimes Satan sits back and laughs at us.

Marriage can be extremely messy. As sinners we can do dumb things in marriage—we hurt one another; we make false assumptions and then miscommunicate; we manipulate or say mean things to our spouse; we think less about serving and more about being served. We don’t always follow God’s Word or advice from godly leaders. We put our hopes in the world or each other more than we put hope in God.

We don’t need Satan to ruin our marriage. We do plenty of unhelpful things on our own to ruin our marriages. I’m sure Satan enjoys having a front row seat, watching our folly and foolishness.

What does he see?

The Battlefield of Marriage

1. Spouses live in the flesh and not in the Spirit (Galatians 5).

Picture a fight. You and your spouse are arguing about something big or small; and at just the right moment, you are faced with a decision. It’s the moment that I’ve heard some call the watershed moment—the point at which you pick a path to follow. You can satisfy your sinful flesh or follow the lead of the Spirit. You go down the path of a nasty fight or honor your spouse by admitting your wrong. Which do you typically choose?

2. No sex in the marriage (1 Corinthians 7).

If you are fighting, the last thing you want to do is to be intimate with each other, right? Conflict is a barrier to intimacy in marriage. The two are not one, but two. One of God’s purposes for sex is to foster “oneness” or unity (Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 6) in your marriage. Couples who don’t have regular sex are allowing a barrier to come between them. No sex in marriage means the couples is less unified.

3. A husband is consumed by pornography (1 Thessalonians 4).

This causes him to be distracted from his wife’s beauty. Sometimes he gets drawn in by a pop-up. More often, he simply gives-in to lust (Galatians 5:13) and aggressively pursues it. She discovers it. It quickly shatters trust in the marriage. She is devastated and she asks questions like, “Am I not desirable?” “Why would he look at other women when he has me?” Worst of all, “Is there something fundamentally wrong with me?”

4. Lofty, sky-high expectations.

I’ve seen men crushed under the weight of their wives’ perfectionistic expectations. The husband says things like, “She expects me to be a holy man.” He constantly feels like a failure, and therefore has little to no incentive to actually work at the marriage. She beats him up (verbally, not physically) because (in the words of one spouse I counseled) “nothing else seems to work to get him to do anything.” 

5. Nuclear war (Romans 1:28-32).

You go head-to-head every night. You have nasty, mean, tears-evoking, loud-screaming, door-slamming fights. Sometimes it gets physical. And you are weary…very, very weary…because you don’t know how to stop the fights, yet you are tired of dealing with nuclear war every night of your life.

6. Avoidance and withdrawal (Ephesians 4:26-27).

The most basic response to any difficulty is the famous fight or flight response. In marriage, the flight response often looks like avoiding your spouse. Maybe you live in the same house, but you live separate lives. After a fight, you avoid one another rather than doing the hard work of dealing with each other. Or, maybe you hide at work in order to avoid the marriage. You are really good at your job, so you often get praise and affirmation at work, but never at home. Is it any surprise that you like being at work more, especially when home is a war zone all of the time?  

7. Hate speech (James 4:1).

In the heat of conflict, we say things that we all regret. I have a friend who calls this stupid talk.  Things come out of my mouth, and the moment it launches from my lips, I regret having said it. I wish I could pull it back and stuff back into my mouth. Sadly, I ignore the maxim, “Not everything that comes to my mind needs to come out of my mouth.”

8. Weak boundaries.

The husband flirts with a woman at work by saying nice things to her. He finds her attractive. He finds ways to go out of his way to encourage her, and sadly, he doesn’t ever demonstrate the same kind of deliberateness with his spouse. There is no physical, immoral interactions, but his verbal affirmations and emotional flirting goes beyond what would safely be deemed as platonic.  Wives are cable of doing this, too. Often times, in retaliation to the husband’s careless boundaries.

9. Work-idolatry (James 4:4-5).

You love your job and you pour yourself into it, to the detriment of your family. You rationalize, “They need me at work” or “She doesn’t understand the pressure I’m under at work.” If you were honest, you work matters more than your family. You cherish your job more than you do your wife and kids. 

10. Lying (Colossians 3:9).

Lying can destroy trust in a marriage. A spouse lies because he is trapped and doesn’t want to have his sin exposed. For example, a husband who has been secretly having an extra-marital affair….of course he is embarrassed for anyone to find out. He is emotionally and spiritually immature—in a word, you married someone with poor character. 

Sad, isn’t it, to see so much foolishness? This is the typical battlefield of bad marriage. This is why we put our hope not in ourselves, but in the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ. It is sinners such as these that Jesus came to save (Mark 10:43-45).

Join the Conversation

“What marriage maladies would you add to this list?”


  • concerned

    Involving children, other family or any others in to the many decision-making processes between a husband and wife, giving them an equal say in a matter that is primarily the private business of husband and wife. Seeking approval, advise, input from others and putting their opinions and ideas above your spouse’s thoughts and input. Letting others come between husband and wife in this way.

    • Monica

      My husband and I just married we live in separate states. We where to be joined at some point. He has done this and is now retreating what where to be our plans to rejoin solely based on his son. I’m willing to do whatever to be closer to him but he has one excuse after another why I should stay behind. His son and ex hate me and she has placed a lot of discontent in the sons eyes for me along as my husband with his own family. Basically he is choosing his son over me and thinks its ok. Idk what to do. There is so much more to this but basically I want his attention. Not his love replaced over his son but the love that is to be given and its rightful place I need as a wife.

      • Si

        Dear Monica, I empathize with you. Before you get into a relationship especially a committed relationship you want to make sure that all unfinished business has been solved. When a child is involved it becomes complicated. That man is physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially responsible for that child who is innocent. Hard to accept by most that all these can not be fully accomplished if the mother of the child is left out of the picture. God chosed the two to be parents for a reason. Our prayer is that when a man commits in marriage to another woman, the romantic relationship should be reserved for his wife. The wife should understand that she is not the child’s mother and should not act like one or try to separate the union that God put together (father, mother and child), and that the mother of the child should know and respect her limits. Also remember that if something happens to that child at mid night and the father has to be called, it is ok for the mother to get him out
        of whatever he is doing to attend to that call. Remember, it took two to tango. Pray for God’s wisdom to guide you.

        • Dale Prince

          Your wife and husband are more important than the children. That’s biblical no matter how you slice it. Of course love your children and teach them the word is your commandment from god. But he should be laying his life down for you. That is going against the word of god to not do that.

    • Left out

      This is probably the most hurtful form of stiff-arming a spouse because it us under the guise of being kind and considerate of others when in fact it is passively quite aggressive. It is upsetting the balance of a proper marriage. Instead of “forsaking all others” the spouse is seeking the comfort of others and sacrificing any possibility of intimacy with their spouse. The spouse becomes “the bad guy” or “party pooper”. They must go along with the decisions without being a part of them, or face the backlash. How sad. Yes, I am writing from experience. I have been falling prey to this tactic for years and am not sure how to set things aright without being hurtful. I want to be honest about the circumstances that have led to my spouse to using others to get what they want. I think my spouse has a very high need of approval of others for some reason and always has. I don’t know what to do about it really.
      I think they have become very popular in the church for always being there and always being fun, while I am left to take care of the responsibilities. I am often embarrassed at this needy behavior but hide it well I think. Could it be that my spouse is addicted to the Kudos he receives and has given up on trying to get them at home? the more years go by the more complicated this issue seems to get. I need to pray about what to do.

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  • anonymous

    Criticism. The questions you say a wife asks herself in regards to her husband’s porn use are irrelevant in this environment – why WOULD’NT he be attracted to other women when he is clear in a multitude of ways that you have never been good enough in any area? No surprise there…

    • tom

      not sure the point you are making

      • Daughter of The Most High

        Me either…..that comment sounds like it came straight from the pit of hell.

    • jakara chakara

      you are a fool

  • Dawnex

    I would also add Busy-ness. When we find our identity in what we do instead of Christ, we frequently over schedule ourselves even with “good” things (i.e. church, volunteer work, relationships, kid stuff, etc. It is important to carve out daily and weekly time to just relax together for meals, catch-up time about life & family, heart-to-hearts about the state of your marriage, spiritual growth, sin, and goals, and time to joke around and laugh together.

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  • Michael Snow

    These all relate to the foundation upon which one builds. Bonhoeffer wrote, “Love does not keep the marriage. The marriage keeps the love.” We have lost any view of covenant and replaced it with a utilitarian love that has become a heresy. http://textsincontext.wordpress.com/2012/11/11/love-prayer-and-forgiveness-now-also-in-ebook-format/

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  • Carey

    From my experience, I’d say you hit all 10 directly on target. There are surely a few more to add, but these are a great start. Marriage has been called a sanctification-laboratory for good reason.

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  • Jan

    How about beginning to talk about a woman’s role in the maladies, which is way more than ‘she is also capable, but…’. I don’t think Christian counselling does neither the husband nor the wife any good by focusing primarily on the husband as the primary source of problems, nor is it following Biblical example as far as I can tell.

    • Amber

      There should be no arguments in a Christian marriage. The wife should obey and serve as instructed in the Bible. End of story.

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  • intentional help meet

    -not being on your spouse’s side when they discipline the children, and coming to defend the children, rather than being a united front, working together. if there are things to be discussed, do it in private.
    -being unforgiving and bitter. reminding your spouse of their past sins
    -also having a child-centered home.

    • jody

      I’m sorry but I refuse to be at my husbands side when he would spank our son for not listening… Then he moved on to the “rod” because it was biblical… I learned the ove & Logic way of disciplining. His belief in corporal punishment didn’t solve anything… In fact my son was starting to hit me when he got angry/frustrated. Yes, I defended my son, my husband was furious at me for intervening but there’s a pretty good reason… Its called child abuse. We live still in the same house but sleep separately, he refuses to acknowledge that he was in the wrong, very self-centered and egotistical. My way of discipline has been 100% more effective (reward good behavior or undesirable consequences for bad behavior) than his old method of spanking. It cost me my marriage, however, but I just couldn’t stand the violence.

      • Rachael Lane Worley

        Love and Logic rocks!

      • Stanley Austin

        Are you still married and what kind of undesirable consequences do you use for undesirable behavior and which ones are the most effective

  • shelley

    i think each of your topics are right on. i’m in a second marriage (my first one ended in my husband being unfaithful and leaving the marriage, me and our two babies and perhaps that’s a hurt i’ve never gottan over) in which my current husband (with a little help from satan) is making it very very hard for me to want to live this way for another 23 years…yes, we’ve been married 23 years and it’s been mostly a long 23! I admit we’ve had our share of ups and downs like most do but i’m just not sure anymore about the institution of marriage. I think it’s become a lot of what God did not intend. It’s very disheartening when you’ve gone through one divorce that you didn’t want and then you’re facing a marriage that is crumbling apart faster than you can click your fingers. I really don’t know anymore how to fix it. My husband has certain notions about me and does not trust me and makes no bones about it in letting me know. Yes, I have made mistakes, yes, some of them revolved around money and yes although I have not worked in the last approx. 8 years, I did contribute a very huge fair share of income from many years early on in our marriage of working and by way of a medical lawsuit award and a rather large inheritance ( large to me anyway and certainly something my mother didn’t have to leave us to enjoy). He benefited greatly from all three of those sources of income (from me) and has yet to show much gratefulness for it. But, he never ceases to let me know HE’S the one who earns the “bread” now and I am more or less subordinate to him and HIS money. No, I don’t get an allowance and No, I don’t really have any say so in how we spend our money except what I am responsible to do the bill paying with and the grocery shopping. I technically serve no purpose in our marriage except to take care of what he doesn’t want to have to take time to do like bill paying, washing clothes, cleaning house, grocery shopping, doing any and all paperwork associated with HIS job (making sure it’s correct, turned in to office etc. etc. and no he doesn’t pay me to do that) and any other domestic chore he can think of including being responsible for finding, scheduling, being there etc. when service people are needed, taking care of any and all maintainence on my own vehicle (heaven forbid that he should have to do that) and basically any and all other things the man can come up with for me to do. Thank God my two sons are grown and live lives of their own now because when they were smaller, they were his little “get me this and get me that men too!”. My gosh, I sound like a nagging old housewife but you know, you just get to this point in life where you’re not sure why you give and give of yourself only to get this kind of abuse in return. Another thing, when my mom passed away and her estate was split between my brother and I, my husband had not problem helping me decide what to spend the money on until it was basically gone and the markets crashed and lost the remainder of it. But when his mom passed away two years ago, he has yet to allow me to be part of any decisions to spend or save even one dollar of her money. WOW, it doesn’t work both ways?

    I’m not sure why I started typing all this except that the last 24 hours has been “24 hours from hell” and I have this huge hot poker in my gut telling me “things ain’t right here”! Now what do I do? He’s spent the last few days just being down right hateful and disrespectful to me and I’ve yet to figure out what I’ve done this time. This morning he kicked a bag of bathroom trash down the steps to the front door (of course almost everything came out of the bag) and it lays on my floor at this very moment. He went off to work with a bad attitude toward me, left the trash in the middle of the floor as if to tell me “it better be picked up by the time I get home” and I am left to spend the day wondering what I’ve done to deserve this punishment again. And by god by the time he gets home today I had better have everything cleaned up, in it’s place and dinner cooking just so he can come in and trash it again. Some day I have to look forward to. It almost makes me want to go out and do some of the things he thinks I do wrong so at least I would deserve what I’m getting! Well, maybe not but you know, my gut and my brain and my spirit just cannot take this anymore. And, I don’t know what the answer is. I just know that I’m not alone, in America today and many other countries there are women who have it much worse off then I and we are all left wondering what will come next. And yes, there are men in this boat as well. Is it worth it to stay in a marriage like this? I don’t know, I hate to think that I’ve invested 23 years for nothing which is basically what it is if I walk away. But if I stay, I think it will be an early end for me because the stress is killing my health and my mental state. Slowly and painfully I am being reduced to nothing. What is wrong with people now days? Are we so selfish that we think we are above keeping the very vows we stood before God and our friends and family and made? I’m so very sorry for anything that I’ve done in my marriage to cause this. I think that nothing that I’ve done does not deserve not being forgiven as I have forgiven what has been done to me. I’m really sick to my stomach and I don’t know which direction to turn next. I just pray a lot, that’s about all I can do at this point. I’m sorry too for all of you who have taken up your precious time to read through all this babbling!

    • Grace Jewel Kiefer

      Im so sorry you feel this way. Im in my 7th year and I feel Like a door mat myself. I feel like I give and give and give…. But i never satisfy him. If you happen to tear this i know its been awhile since you post this. You can find me on Facebook Grace Jewel Kiefer.

    • David

      Shelley,
      You are a strong and courageous woman. Nothing you said constitutes “babbling”. I see your point completely. I lost my wife for the same reasons he is losing you. After years and years, I still love her and pray I will one day be able to win her love again. We had a precious little pet that was our child. She was brainwashed into putting him in a position to die in terror. The pain eats my guts out everyday. But, I know he was innocent and without sin and is in Heaven. I know that in God all things are possible.
      Matthew: Chapter 17, Verse 20 – the words of Jesus. For verily I say to you, if ye have the faith of a grain of mustard seed, you shall say unto this mountain, remove hence to yonder place, and it shall remove, and nothing shall be impossible unto you.
      Personally, I’ll take the words of Jesus of Nazareth over the embittered atheists every time. Never give up! You are a strong and beautiful person and ANYTHING TRULY IS POSSIBLE. God Bless You.

      • YoungVolcanos

        Yes @david your pet is without sin and is in Heaven. Hope you get to see him again someday, but not soon. Prayers for you.

    • Rachael Lane Worley

      I am exhausted reading your story because I know that pain all too well. I’m married for the second time, and we have seven children between us. It’s hard. Marriage is hard. I’ve got your back in prayer.

  • momofminnie

    All of this is so true. People hear it and forget it . They always think it will happen to someone else. I will also say that WWJD is very important. Jesus taught but did not lecture. Jesus lived by example. Some folks PREACH and don’t teach. This can lead others to turn off what they should and could be hearing. A fine line but it makes a difference.

  • jimwsrren

    Stay true its ur family god waited so long to give us men agood thing in women

  • jmw

    – When a groom fails to truly, selflessly, love his wife as Christ loves the church,
    – When a bride fails to submit to the husband’s headship over her as the church submits to Christ.

    Easy to say, but so hard to do…especially on our own. Maybe the first mistake is putting your spouse ahead (or in place of) your relationship with. (and following of) God. Definitely a work in progress here! But the growth and closeness that I’ve had with my spouse has grown since trying to be more like Christ. ((Again, definitely still a work in progress here, though!)) =)

  • LuvinJesus2

    I hear and read so many off colour jokes about spouses from the pulpit. It’s sickening. Marriage is holy. Do not make jokes about what is holy. Pastors can teach that it’s wrong to say, ‘holy cow’, but think it’s important to start each sermon with a joke about marriages. It’s not funny and only the devil is pleased. It should be taught in bible schools and shouted from the rooftops: no spousal abuse from the pulpit or from the bulletins! Would Jesus do that?

  • Crushed.

    If the family head is being actively persecuted for his stand against the lies of satan, and he has been thrust into the judgement of Job, satan will work on all those surrounding this man, to condemn him, and destroy him to prove he is not truly a believer in God. Many time the closest ones to us, our own family members, can be persuaded by the wicked one, to judge our Christian family members who are being sorely tested, by viewing them only as from the flesh. To be victorious, Christian marriage mate need to learn the machinations of the devil, to resist him in the day of our being inspected.

    I was a 40 year member of Jehovah’s Witnesses, and discovered for myself what they really are, and I disassociated. My wife followed, but her son stayed, and refused to ever speak to her again as it is their form of shunning and punishment for leaving the man-organization.

    For 3 years I developed an online ministry, assisting others to break from the cults, and all of my local business work began to be ruined, then when the economy started to crumble, my wife blamed me, instead of coming to Jesus with me as new creations in Him. She was offered a good job and income, new clothes, a new life, if she would leave me and come and live with her children, would would support her and love her, instead of being with a loser like me.

    She took our only auto, and slandered me in the community as a “verbal abuser”, and she destroyed my name as a local musician and entertainer. She has become so full of lies, and calls herself an “empowered woman”, and she is blind to the damage she has caused..we have lost our marriage of 23 years, our home, all of our possessions and furnishings, sold to keep the mortgage paid, and our little church family who helped us both, she has disregarded and she has found herself in a terrible mess of spiritual pain, but she still wants the wealth and riches satan has exchanged with her, for her marriage.

    Married couples must fight together to stay as one and gain the complete victory in Christ.
    My wife is in my prayers daily.

    • Mary Lynn

      Wow. That is an amazing yet heartbreaking story. My husband got saved & after serving in leadership I watched him get attacked & taken down by the enemy. [Also a weak condemning church with poor discipleship] The sins he commits I believe invite the enemy into our home & cause further destruction with me & our children. Our marriage is now a mess. We have really good days & then absolutely horrible days. I think more times than not it IS spiritual warfare. If my husband was still serving God, would our marriage be falling apart?? Ironic: I was involved in a cult prior to my own salvation. I desire to serve God now in ministry with all my heart. But my spouse is falling further away from God as I am drawing closer.

  • Gerry

    I am married to my husband and he does not see anything wrong with taking another woman out for a cup of coffee, or movie, or exercising together. He wants to know where does it say in the bible that this is a sin or you cannot do it.

    • Proverbs 5:15-20

    • Nicole

      He shouldn’t need the Bible to know it’s wrong. If something hurts you, that should be enough.

      • Jon

        So what do we do about it? Is divorce going to far even when they refuse to listen

        • Bec Davidson

          Fast and pray for your husband 🙂

          • Amy Miller

            I have become so bitter at situations like this! I am tired of people making women feel like they have to be the strength of the marriage problems ALL the time!!! WE are NOT always the criminal in EVERY case! It’s not right that these men can be made to felt sorry for while they go on living very immaturely. Why is it we women know what needs done in a home, family, marriage, and I come from a broken home with many foster homes involved, but the woman is always made to feel that she has to be the backbone for the poor little husband! It makes me sick anymore how people say, oh, pray for your husband, be his cheer leader etc… Let me say this, my husband rides around in a truck all day drinking coffee and who knows what else while I stay at home, care for 6 children, homeschool, pay bills, doctors visits, ortho visits, cook, clean, hospitality, gardening etc…. Why isn’t he smart enough to come home and be there for his family. WHY can’t he pick up the family bible while he just sat on his butt all day driving around??? It doesn’t take a college education to figure out what your suppose to do. SOOOO many other men are doing it and so can our spiritually lazy husbands! I have had it with hearing people say, you need to help him! Help him with what?? He has no direction or vision in life. He never comes to me and tells me what he desires, nor has he since we’ve been married! He’s happy just as long as everything is going ok. He makes no extra effort. Many people say he’s just laid back! Well, I don’t appreciate laid back nor lazy people! We all have a responsibility to fulfill and I believe there are many men doing this. Its not up to us wives to get them moving and up off their lazy butts… I believe God sees the pain and hurt of many wives and He will repay! Many men hide behind the 4 walls of their house thinking no one can see, but ultimately, God sees! Wives, hang in their, Jesus is coming soon and then there will be judgement! ps. yes this is coming from a very hurting wife with many many pains and rejections, forgive me for sounding harsh, but, it’s where Im at!

    • Susan Seifert

      He’s opening himself up for temptation. It means that he thinks he is above being tempted to sin and can handle it, or, it could mean that he doesn’t have a strong conviction against flirting with a woman he isn’t married to. In Matthew 5:28, Jesus explains committing adultery as lusting after a woman (or anyone) whom we are not married to. According to other verses in the epistles, the husband is to love and cherish his wife. She should have a place in his life that no other woman has. See Ephesians 5 (whole chapter) but specifically verses 25-33. Husbands think they get off the hook because of the verses that tell that a woman must submit to her husband. But if they understood the verses which talk about how much a husband has to sacrifice for his wife, and the level in which it is to be done, it puts a different spin on the marriage relationship and his responsibilities as a husband. 1 Peter 3:7 is good too. Your husband is opening himself up to a serious temptation that could lead to disaster, but he doesn’t understand that or isn’t willing to say ‘no’ to the temptation. I have a friend whose husband did this and was confronted. He thought of his relationship with another woman as just friendship. The relationship grew stronger. Then there were more women. This man now justified what he was doing by saying that the Bible allowed for polygamy. Months later, he divorced his wife, left his family, and married another woman. His family was devastated, and he will continue living like this until he learns the ‘Fear of the Lord’.

      • noemi

        Thank you for the verses.

    • GuessWho

      And every affair I have ever heard of – always starts out innocently enough….best course is to not be in the company of the opposite sex – and YES I’d think it very fishy for my spouse to go to a movie with someone.

    • just want to know

      Just wanted to know if things are better now, a year later?

      • NVA2013

        I wish I could say yes. He continues texting with women, speaking poorly of me and disrespecting our marriage. Although these messages are done in fantasy and not followed through on – the pain is the same.

    • skenami

      Peace and blessings Gerry, WOW!!! I hope your husband has stop taking other women for coffee. 1 Peter 3:7(World English Bible ),

      “You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers may not be hindered.” God doesn’t take your husband actions lightly. God knows our hearts, so your husband can tell you whatever excuse he wants but God knows whats truly in his heart. The only person he’s playing is himself. I would suggest for you to pray for him, since he doesn’t have knowledge of this, which makes him vulnerable to the trick of the devil. Pray non-stop, and you’ll see the devil shakes things around more, but that just means that God is putting things in it’s right perspective. Gerry it isn’t easy, but with God first in your life he shall direct your steps to having a victorious marriage. Remember when Jesus died in the cross it just appeared as things went wrong, but it was the start of the church we learn about today (The Good News). Now, we have the Holy Spirit dwelling in us helping us like an OnStar device (if you don’t know what it is goggle it, lol). If God is for you who could be against you? May God give you the strength, enlightenment, and ability to go through this trail and come out of it victorious. In return you’ll be able to help others from your testimony. Stay in prayer and hope for the best. In the name and blood of Jesus we agree this will come to pass, AMEN.

    • desi

      it doesn’t look good and it’s not very respectful to your wife but it should always be another lady in the church they can do these type of things for Pastor or men that are married because you know the devil tries to steal kill and destroy and sometimes people have motive. you have to make sure that you express your concerns about the issue the other person should always want to make you happy not feel controlled but because of love

  • Max

    We talk at each other and don’t listen. We are meant to “know” one another but fail to try. We retaliate instead of growing.

  • Cros

    I like the 10 topics covered here. However, I think they lay on top of some other fundamental things that should also be investigated. Not just “men and women” but people, need to learn collaborative communication. We all tend to use the same words but often times we can mean something different than what the other person hears. This usually goes unnoticed. Also, when things get uncomfortable, we used inflammatory language to express our discomfort not necessarily a correct recounting of the situation. This inflammatory language tends to redefine the other person’s motives as if this was the effect they were trying to achieve. This shows a lack of grace that both sides fall easy prey to. Even reading the article, I wonder what background influences shaped which items would be put forth, and what weight to give to them. I supposed it could be because the article was written by a man that although it obviously attempts to stay “neutral”, it leans toward men issues – the last 3 items definitely lean that way. I’d be curious what a list and support would look like if it were written by a comparitive female.

  • Confused beyond words

    After 14 yrs together my husband and I are separated. I have no trust him him, after numerous online affairs he had. I tried for years and years to deal with it as best as I could but I just couldn’t hang around while he willingly knowingly hurt me and broke me down. Why talk to other females when I was right there, just waiting for him to come to me. I miss him every second of every day. I have moved out of state with our two children. I miss our life together but mostly I miss the best friend I thought I had in him. I question everyday if I made the right choice in leaving, maybe I should’ve hung around. I don’t know. He continues to flirt with me but doesn’t say he loves me or misses me.

  • Robin Hager

    You have got to be kidding? Who believes in this bible crap!? It’s the 21st century for goodness sake. You’re pathetic.

  • owl7575

    is it flirting for 2 married christian to joke about leaving their marriage to run off together if 1 of their spouse is in the room

    • Josefine

      ummm, not only is it flirting its downright hurtful and wrong to say things like that! doesn’t the bible say that out of our hearts come our desires? even if it is a ‘joke’,it is something that stemmed out of the heart.(Ephesians 5:4 and proverbs 26:18-19)hope this helps

  • Leslie Settle

    I enjoyed this article. I have a husband who thinks its okay for me to be the bread winner, do all the house work and take care of the kids. Plus he lately refuses to serve God and my 5 year old is constantly asking why doesn’t daddy love God like we do. It is emotionally and spiritually exhuasting. We spent the first 4 years dealing with his infedilities, 2 years getting back on track and now he is just stuck in a bum like state 10 years later. He takes his unhappiness with his career choices out on the family but tries to flip it like I am at fault and says I should not complain since I am the one with the education and skills he does not have to make more money. Right now he makes $0. Even if it is true that I have more education, every man can do something to take care of his family and every married man should know carrying for your wife is more than helping with the children now and then. Instead his fustration says shut down, leave the house and tell no one where I am going , come home late and get an attitutude if you ask where he was. This is hard when I am the one paying for everything. I fell like I might as well be a single mom. I am running out of options and patience to help him but I know I will not give Satan the satisfaction of a divorce. Sometimes I know it is probably me needing to seek God more becuase everything in the natural is saying common sense is to leave and leave fast but God operates in the supernatural so keep us in your prayers. It will either be a breakthrough for us or God will give me a break free not to endure this. Thanks again for the artile.

  • aj

    I got married to a man I had known a few years who went to college in another state most of our relationship. His family is very emotionally abusive and uses bible verses to guilt him. I come from a Christian home where I grew up learning to leave a God centered life from two of the most Godly people I have ever met. I have a child from a previous relationship and this child has taught me that a few things. One, that if you bring your sins to God, he will turn them into beautiful things. The second is that everything happens for a reason and if you trust God instead of blame God or try to control what he is doing, his will in the end is truly better than anything I could have made the situation into. Six weeks after marrying my husband, he broke my collarbone and gave me a concussion. He did this all by one very forceful push. My son was four feet or less away. He is eight and has seen too much abuse already (that is the reason his father and I are no longer together. His father was not a believer and didn’t intend to change). My husband is not allowed to see me and the charges are very serious as he almost killed me (I had a small fracture to my skull that has already heeled). I found out that we had conceived a kid on our honeymoon, which we had just returned from and lucky I was not far enough along at the time of the incident for any of the damages to have hurt the baby. I say all this to say I found this article very useful and although it will be over a year before I can legally even speak to my husband, let alone tell him about our child, I can rest assured that if I again turn to God, I will see the beauty he can create from something that feels so ugly. I can also say that this article gave me some hope for my future relationships as it talks about all the issues we had prior to and then some. I hope that made some sense. It made me feel better if anything. Prayers would be greatly appreciated. God bless

  • J. Zamora

    My wife left me a week and half ago saying she does not have feelings for me anymore and that we are too different because we changed and this has been building up for a long time. She says that we are apart a lot and that we’re both ok with it and that it is not normal. I told her I’ll do anything for the marriage but she said its too late, not fixable. She does not want church, counseling or anything. We have a 3 year old son. We have always had a problem with communication and that we need help. She says no and that right now I need to give her time and space till she figures everything out and that she lost herself. I’m far from perfect but I want to save my marriage so I’m just waiting it out. We had fights but never thought it would come to this. I pray the LORD will bring her back!

    • Rita

      Wow the same thing just happened to me. Husband of 20 years said he needed space and thought a separation was what HE needed. How is your situation now? Praying it has worked out for the best!

  • CHICAGOILL56

    I myself am going through a situation,with my husband,he isn;t as loving as he use to be,he comes home and doesn;t listen to me about my day,or tell me about his,he is either on his cell phone or the computer,he never tells me I look nice,he is always comparing me,to someone else,about you need to wear this or this,and when he wants sex I just don;t feel,like he is with me,or that I am who he wants,I just do not know what to do ,and I hate to argue and I don;t want a divorce,I do love this man and I know how God feels about marrige,any comments or advice please fell free to e-mail me at CATA@BLOMAND.NET

  • Leo

    I’m a Husband of 19 years who has lost the trust of my wife because of my history of drug addiction. I’m clean now and working hard to stay that way but I find myself confused on were I stand now. The wife has lost trust I understand but it seams she puts the kids, mother-in-law, and her brother in front of me no matter how many times I bring it up. I know I have to earn the trust back and keep on the right track but how when your wife will not stop bring the pass up against you? I guess what I’m saying is I know I have done wrong and God has forgiven me and I have forgiven myself but my wife says she wants to make it work but puts nothing in to it?

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  • Mary Lynn

    Finances, affairs… Death of a close loved one other than a spouse. These things are devouring marriages.

  • Real talk!

    I have ne question regarding your list… why is it no one EVER mentions the unhealthy, addictive, negative, etc…TV shows women have come to watch daily? Soaps, reality TV (current), etc… Many have pointed out porn for men for years, but NEVER address these “distractions” pertaining to women? Does it not cause a rif in the marriage as stated that porn does?

  • savvy blackbird

    Not respecting your husband. Women are hard wired to be nurturing and loving, but we have to be reminded to defer to the God ordained leadership of our husbands. Submitting doesn’t mean being a doormat or weak, it is a genuine respect for your husband and his role as the spiritual head of the family.
    Men on the other hand need to be reminded to put their wives ahead of themselves and love them. There’s a difference between romantic love and daily, in the trenches, put your wife’s needs and desires ahead of your own love.
    It’s difficult for a husband to love his wife more than he loves himself when the wife doesn’t respect him. Nagging, withholding affection, being judgemental, and especially talking poorly about your husband to other people. If the husband were to act like we do, he’d be considered a verbal and emotional abuser. When the wife does it, she’s “helping”. Don’t treat your husband like he’s just your biggest child. Women wouldn’t put up with that kind of treatment from their husbands, but we expect our husbands to not only put up with that kind of disrespect but appreciate it.
    I’ve noticed this horrible trend of treating husbands like they’re stupid and couldn’t function without their wives running their lives in our culture. Sitcoms, movies, even commercials portray this constantly. How can we expect our husbands to put us first and be the romantic, dashing, sexy men we married when we treat them like children?
    A marriage is a partnership, except instead of being 50/50 both parties give 100/100% of themselves to make the marriage flourish.
    The two books that have helped me in my marriage the most are Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggerich and The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

  • Anthony_watson

    my husband works side by side with woman alone in cleaning vacant homes …im not aloud to do but i hate the fact he does it…long story short …
    he quit his job because he thinks i don’t trust him….
    wht do i do

  • cassykenz

    My husband and I both have children from previous marriages. We each have a boy and both are living with us. The boys are constantly at eachothers throat. One stretches the truth to get the other in trouble and the other purposely does things he knows the other doesn’t like. Well, my husband’s family, his mother particularly continuously oversteps her boundaries and interferes. Both boys are children and my husband and his family remember that his son is a child yet dont seem to acknowledge my sin is a child also. Any argument between the boys and they automatically act like my child is a monster. I feel like I’m losing my family and im the only one who seems to be doing everything I can not to. I’m really really depressed and I am out if ideas. I can’t talk to my husband without him making me to be the problem. IDon’t want to give up but I don’t want to continue giving all of myself to someone who can’t even give me half of himself. Any suggestions or positive feedback is appreciated. Sorry f im all over the place I just don’t know which way is up

    • vidanuevatx

      One thing that you and many other commenters here need: A sound church. Your church leaders should be willing to step in to help you and/or your husband to build a godly marriage. They should be willing to speak with love and firmness, correcting those who are wrong. Church discipline, when done in the right way, protects those in the church from each other and from themselves. It takes stubborn, wayward people and points them to the truth that they cannot live for themselves and live for the devil, and then claim to be Jesus’ followers.

  • trknangel

    What do you do with a husband that claims to be perfect in Christ, but is demanding, insensitive, says degrading things about others if their over weight, drive a foreign car. He cuts me off mid sentence when I have something to say and it’s painful. He makes me feel insignificant, stupid and like I’m there strictly to satisfy him sexually. If I try explaining how he makes me feel he gets extremely mad and says it’s not his fault that he’s perfect in Christ. We’ve only been married 3 months. Before marriage he was an extremely caring and giving man. Now he treats me like a slave.

  • Bonnie

    My husband and i been apart for a year and we live in different states but he lives with someone else I’ve done everything and sees no wrong in this what should I do

  • Maria

    Do you have bible scriptures on marriage, family members and friends that like to interferred in on marriage

  • heidi

    He thinks it is ok to google any actress in front of me or behind my back and check out every pic of her he can..no matter how procative and I should be o.k. with this. Trying to say I have no self esteem. This behavior hurts me, amd belittles me. I feel it is wrong to treat me this way.

  • jet

    is it ok for a married man to be separted from his wife and be alone with another women? can someone show me versus to prove this?

    • anymore

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  • Van

    I’m married to a woman who only tries to keep her children happy. I married her and put up with her mean hateful kids the whole way thinking it would be worth the fight. Now that they are grown she still has to do everything for them because they are too sorry to be grown. I’m tired of them taking advantage of her. But she doesn’t see it that way. We are so unhappy and she just won’t admit that her kids need to grow up and stand on their own feet. Instead she says I don’t love her kids, but I done more for them than their own daddy. I want my wife to understand that we can’t keep doing without to help her kids. They are grown with jobs what can I do?

  • Renee

    I am with a man for 14 yrs. he has chested. During doing this he cheated on me twice . I bought it up so many times. I could let go. Plus are child was on the same team with the women he cheated on. As time past I question how he loves me. Know it’s to the point . He want talk to be for weeks and he differently doesn’t tell me he loves me . It destroys me. We talk about splitting up. But I can’t leave him. I love him too much. No matter what the hurt was. He stay . Use to when he mad he will sleep in the other room. But know he sleeps in our bed.
    Everything like before. I just don’t understand why he punishes me with this words. I don’t know if I love u. I don’t want to be with you. I hope u die etc. but he never leaves . The reason I question it is from those words and a lot more. They way he will express any feeling is nothing like he use to. I not with him for the kids

  • Paula

    “This is a testimony i must share with people. Me and my boyfriend of 3years was about to move in together, all of a sudden he got cold feet and just went off. I email drstanleyspelltemple@hotmail.com for help to bring him back and within 2 days he was back, I don’t know what he did, but it worked and my boyfriend is now living with me and we are expecting our first child and couldn’t be happier!”…….Paula

  • Greg

    My wife has left me saying she does not love me anymore. She is a born again Christian. I am just coming to God. She has asked for a divorce. When I ask her why, her reply is “God is telling me to. He is calling me away from you.” I have not read the whole Bible, but I can not find any reference to such. Every thing I read says other wise. God says to love and have faith. I have asked about counseling thru the Chuck, and she doesn’t reply. I have asked her to talk to her pastor and she replies, “I am talking to God. This is what He wants me to do.” How do I deal with this? This is still pretty new to me, but in my heart, I know this is not Gods’ will

    • James Stanley

      Let her go. She’s a liar everytime she says she’s a Christian. God will NEVER advocate for divorce. What He joined together let no man separate. Or was He a big, fat liar? He was powerful enough to bring you together. She’s tearing it apart and that’s not your fault. Let her go on and Jehovah Jireh, The Lord will provide. A better wife, that is.

    • Mary Gray Moser

      You’re right. You should talk with your pastor or some Bible-loving person of authority.

  • Amina Abdul

    My Marriage was hit with Divorce when my husband cheated on me and almost filed papers against me, we were married for over 8 years with 3 kids, he never cheated on me before until i found out he cheated on me with a younger woman this year. It was so unbearable to me that i had to seek help on the internet. I came Across a testimony about Dr. Great of moonlightmagicspells@gmail.com on how he cured a Man with HIV AIDS and i decided to give it a try by emailing him, he told me that my husband was held under a magic spell by the other lady, that i need to break that before my husband reunites with me. So i did as he said and after 2 weeks my husband came back home and apologized to me. Since then he has been hos best. So i am happy to share this to those that have any problem that needs help. my id is aminaabdul01@gmail.com

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  • Deon Berry

    I lost my wife, because of these 10 things not all of them but some, I lied alot to her, did not treat her right, I said I believed in Jesus, but never did. No that I trully believe in Jesus, she does not believe me anymore, and here is the thing it hurts alot. I have found my savior, but I lost my wife and child, which I so dearly love with all my hart, I just wish she can see how I praise God everyday, without thinking a well he is just lying again.

    • Vince

      Give it time. She will see the Christ in you. Ask God to show you your heart and pray for God to show her her own heart.

  • L Cranmer

    I am married to a 64 year old only child, immature, sarcastic, and a loner to
    boot. He is a born again Christian but I see no growth. We have been saved
    since 1994. I am really fed up anymore with him.

  • truthlover

    Gerry
    I am just sitting here wondering how he would feel if you were to do the same. The thought os such sometimes awakens us to the reality of what we are doing. Thoe are weak boundaries that he needs to tighten to protect your marriage and you. Your feelings should matter to your spouce and that alone should be enough reason for him not to do it. I hope he comes to realise how this behaviour not only hurts you but creates numerous opportunities for the “appearances of evil” and for temptation

  • cwodins

    My marriage is hurting because my husband criticizes me and i am a defensive person so it causes us problems i dont want to be that way i want to be better but somehow i have such trouble with being defensive i know he loves me and means well when he says things but i take him wrong and get defensive
    pray for me

  • lisa jerry

    Hello I am Lisa Jerry ,I am out here to spread
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  • Lost

    I have been with my husband two in a half years I married him in November of 2013. I have had a gut feeling that he is having an affair with his co-worker even before we got married. He has continueally denied that he has been faithful but something inside of me tells me he is a liar. He has played the same type of games to women in his past including his wife that he lost to breast cancer and other women he dated after that. Before I married him I prayed and prayed asking God to destroy everything before we made it to the altar but everything keep going through like if God’s blessings was in it all. I can’t stand the hurt anymore I lost my husband twelve years ago in a car accident and was very hard for me to go forward in my life it literlly took God’s hand to help me to move forward. I don’t know if I can handle a divorce. I am desperate for God to intervine i am hurting bad and i don’t know how to handle it. I have read the word and the advice that was given to me from above but this is a battle i don’t know how to fight I feel like I am done.

    • faithinChrist

      This is God’s battle, just trust God to do the winning. Claim your victory, the battle is already won. Say and believe this everyday: “God is my victory, and He is here!” These words are from a song called “The Desert Song” God Bless you!

  • kattie

    Before i when to my summer holiday i was having a miss understanding with my husband,a day after my marriage my husband was having an affair with another woman i known all their moves i just feit that it as just a joke i never knew that my husband was having an affair,one day i called husband on a phone another woman pick the call and she was insulting me on the phone that i should leave her husband for her that i am disturbing their relationship,this is the same man that i got married to i am so confuse i do not known what to do i need some one to device me on how i can get my husband back because i do not want to lose my husband for any reason he is the right man for me and thats why i get married to he..I told a very good friend of mine about what i am passing through she promise to help to and that was how i meant great zalilu a spell caster that help me win back my husband i never believe in love spell but great zalilu prove it to me and that was how i won back my husband and now i am leaving well with my family,save that your relationship today by emailing this great man at greatzalilu@gmail.com

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  • Valencia

    Valencia
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  • Shoot me

    My wife ruins any time we do have togethor by fighting with me about having more time togethor

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    surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that
    he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or
    the kids.it was the spell that was casted on him that was working on
    him. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great
    spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr.Iyayi on any
    problem in this world, he is very nice, here is his contact
    driyayilovespellhome@gmail.com. or contact him through his website
    address: http://driyayilovespellhome.webs.com You can also contact him through his mobile: +2347032617285. He is the best spell caster.

  • Marian Jerry

    Hello every one, I really want to share my testimony to the hearing of the general public on this site about how DR EHI helped me, December 2013, I saw a post on a particular site shearing testimony on how the great spell caster brought back her ex who name is Jerry so I just see it common and i said let me see what will happen because my husband left me and my three kids for another woman just like that, i and my husband was married for six years living happily before i new what was going on, he left me and go for another woman so when i saw the post, i contacted the spell caster on his email and he told me i should not worry that my husband will come back to me in three days after once he finish casting the reunite spell and to my greatest surprise, i now have my husband back to me again and i want to use this medium to let every body know that this is real and if you are out there having this same problem please contact the great spell caster on his email now because he can do the unexpected. his email is ehispellcentre@gmail.com or email him directly on his web site http://ehispellcentre.webs.com . I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK.

  • Silvia

    I want to say a big thank you to Dr.kizzekpe for the good work he has done in my dad’s life and my marriage. He helped my dad in his court case, a spell was cast for my dad 2days before his court case and cause of that the judge ruled in his favor…and he also helped in reuniting me and my husband, i can’t explain how he did it I’m actually short of words. But one thing is certain he’s so good at what he does, he sure knows how to cast a real spell and the one that works. I’m so blessed by him and he can as well bless you too, all you need to do is to contact him on: kizzekpespells@outlook.com

  • lovespell

    Blessing Norton

    Hello people in this forum My Name is Mrs. Blessing Norton, I was married
    to my husband for 10 years and we were both bless with three children,
    living together as one love, until 2013 when things was no longer the way
    the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months
    after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find
    out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave him the job. since
    that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls i tried all i
    could . Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a
    very good friend of my who has also had a similar problem, she told me of a
    spell caster called dr Okun of okuntemple@gmail.com who helped her solved
    her marital problems. But i told her that if it has to do with making blood
    sacrifice that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do
    with that and she said what is required of me is to do as i am directed so
    i obeyed.i provided dr okun of okuntemple@gmail.com of the details as he
    requested after three days of the reunion spell initiation choice that i
    made as presented before me my husband Julius Norton came back to me
    begging that he was sorry to have cheat on me that it wasnt his fault and i
    forgave him as i publish this testimonial i do such with all joy knowing
    that there is somebody out there who is in need of help dr okun of
    okuntemple@gmail.com is a passionate and reliable love spellcaster waste
    no time to tell him of your problem at okuntemple@gmail.com or call his
    number on +2347060595685 i know he will help you just as he helped me

  • Alicia

    I am Nicholas, i want to testify of how i got back my girlfriend through the help of a love spell caster, my girlfriend broke up with me for a guy called Anthon after 2 years of relationship, i did all i could to get her back but all proved abortive until a friend of mine told me about a spell caster who help people regain back lost love, at first doubted it because i never believed in spells but i decided to give it a try, when i contacted this spell caster, he helped me cast a re-union spell and i got back my girlfriend within 48hours (2days). Contact this spell caster for your relationship or marriage problems via this email ikedispiritualtemple@gmail.com

  • KIRAN

    I thank GOD almighty for leading me to drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com It has been a few month since my husband left home and every time we have the opportunity to talk we always argue. I contacted drlawrencespelltemple@homail.com for a spell to restore my marriage. The following week my husband call me and asked for forgiveness for everything that he had done in the past. This weekend we are going to spend it together with our children to celebrate our anniversary drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

  • mac

    I was recently married roughly 8 months ago, i knew for the couple yrs dating i wanted to marry her. We both were in the military until last spring i was medically retired we decided together we loved one another had same goals n believe in God, i dont claim to b a christian i know i am unsaved but want that to change. Since our marriage in late Aug i have only spent 9-10 with my wife since she is stationed on Ms and ive had many surgeries since Aug. Bone fusions shrapnel taken from all parts of body n 2 wks ago had another piece of bone taken from hip and placed on my shoulder. My wife deployed in early march and i drove to see her in homeport every chance i was healthy n paid for hdt to come to NC to see me any chance she had. I drove down in jan to move her out pf our apartment and drove her to the deployment spaces dreading my world leaving, she left saying soon she would b back and her enlistment will b over. We had so many plans in place. She contacted me after two wks n spain via fb refusing to use the phome i paid for her deployment. It was a wk later she wrote me a generic tiny reply to my many letters sent n msgs. On feb 2 her bday i called her command and they some jow couldnt reach her, strange she works in headquarters. A week later she thanked me for gift said my bday gift was n mail and thats all, valentines i left a msg with her commander, sent gifts flowers, cards for our first vday as a married couple, no reply till feb 23 via fb message asking if i received my gift n happy birthday, not word that she missed me or was hoping my serious surgeries went ok. The nxt morming o received the coldest fb msg saying she wanted a divorce and was working on it from spain and she never loved or cared about me but married me for the extra money. I did quite a few combat tours as spec ops guy but apparently she was glad i didnt see her but so fewdays. She will not contact me at all except twice once to complain about being bothered by the red cross which notifies spouses when their spouse is going n hospital n the surgeries are very serious. I know a lot of people in her battalion so reached out to them to get her to call me. They contacted me back and said she had no intention of seeing or calling me. I dont believe in divorce but in this case o wont see her till she comes back n june, but there is nothing i can do to try to stop this, i found out from some my old team who knows exact time of her arrival and that she flies out same day to cali where she is from to get seperated n divorced in 6 months but also she wants some of my land i bought yrs ago so she cant get that but half her bah, baq money is mine i dont want money want my wife. She also wants to know the exact disability money i recieve from military since i received an 80% disability rating but have yet recieved a dime of back pay or monthly disability so there isnt anything she can take. I would do anything to keep us together even tho i guess she constantly thinks about some other guy. I talked to a lawyer and am advised to print her saved messages and turn a certified letter to her CO and send JAG a copy as well. I dont want to b vindictive and hurtful, i know the trouble she will get into for defrauding the govt and marrying under false pretenses as well as one or two more articeles from ucmj. I dont want her to get in trouble even though at very least she would lose rank be on restrictions for between 45-60 days 2 months half pay plus w/e else imposed. I dont want anything done to her. But with my beliefs if she divorces me biblically i have no option but remain single. If she bad been honest b4 wedding, would never have gotten married and just gave her money, dont have much but would rather that anyday than this. I knoe people have real issues and this may seem minor but hurts for me anyway. Ive treated her like a queen never even raised my voice to her. Pray God can hear this sinners prayer but dont want to lose my wife. I cant stop her n she knows divorce is wrong and she took her military vowels series but marriage is just a piece of paper to her n i was well played i guess.

  • Melisa George

    My name is Melissa, My Ex-boyfriend dumped me two weeks ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help people to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 48hours that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you Dr Aluya, You are truly talented and gifted. Email: aluyakespelltemple@live.com is the only answer. He can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man.or call +2347059498969.

  • Mary Smith

    Unimaginable and unbelievable. I am Mary Smith from the United States
    and i have a good news to share to the entire world. Do you need your
    ex husband or lover urgently? I wanna tell you that you need not to
    worry because i have a good news for those out there that are faced or
    similar to such situation because there is always a hope and a solution
    to all problem. There is a great spell caster called Great Owologbo who
    can really solve your problem. Getting my lover back is what i can’t
    imagine but when I was losing Jackson, I needed help and somewhere to
    turn badly but my Aunty told me about this spell caster who also helped
    her on the internet. I thought it won’t work but i just tried to give
    this man a chance and i ordered a LOVE SPELL. Two days later, my phone
    rang. Jackson was his old self again and wanted to come back to me! Not
    only come back, the spell caster opened him up to know how much I loved
    and needed him. This Spell Casting isn’t brainwashing, but he opened up
    his eyes to know how much we have to share together. I recommend anyone
    who is in my old situation to try him because he will help you and make
    things be the way it ought to be. If you have such problem or similar
    to this, please contact him on his email Greatowologbospelltemple@yahoo.com thank you Great Owologbo and may your gods reward you for your good deeds..

  • Bobby

    My husband and i figth so much that i forget about puting God frisy i forget about my sons and what this has done and is doing to them my husband constamly wishrs me dead and says what a good life he will have when i dwn the big whole he used to beat me up and i was frigthen to say anything to him now im not letting him do that any more and i say horrible things which i always regret i wish i could just sell up and go get a place of my own this has been on going for 30years and it hinders my walk with God my husband is a backslider

  • meliny

    I m TASHA from U.S.A,My ex lover now [husband] is back and we are happily married with kids and i m here to gave thanks and appreciation to Dr IRABOR the spell caster of iraborspelltemple@gmail.com for all the time He stood by me,for all the truth He make me see,for all the happiness He brought into my life,for all the wrongs He make right,for every of my dreams He make come through and for the help i found in Him,i am grateful and thankful unto Him,He was the one that helped me all,He never let me fall,He was the one that saw me through it all,He was my source of strength when i was weak,He was my voice when i couldn`t speak,He was my eyes when i couldn`t see,{spiritualy}He saw the pain wasn`t good for me,He lifted me were i couldn`t reach,i m everything i m today because He helped me,i m so happy my husband is back in my life at last,His email is iraborspelltemple@gmail.com,A temple were sorrows are dropped and happiness is gain in return.

  • cynthia334

    hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn’t love me anymore. well, i can not say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship try him here is his email prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com of a truth he really helps again his email his prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com

  • cynthia334

    hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn’t love me anymore. well, i can not say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship try him here is his email prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com of a truth he really helps again his email his prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com

  • Rose Winnse

    THANKS TO GREAT DR AISABU FOR SOLVING MY PROBLEMS HIS EMAIL IS (aisabulovespell@gmail.com)

    I was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Italy for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love her only. So when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Italy to see that other woman. so I and my kids were now so frustrated and I was just staying with my mum and I was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, I and my kids were so confuse and I was searching for a way to get my husband back home because I love and cherish him so much so one day as I was browsing on my computer I saw a testimony about this spell caster DR AISABU testimonies shared on the internet by a lady and it impress me so much I also think of give it a try. At first I was scared but when I think of what me and my kids are passing through so I contact him and he told me to stay calm for just 24 hours that my husband shall come back to me and to my best surprise I received a call from my husband on the second day asking after the kids and I called DR. AISABU and he said your problems are solved my child. so this was how I get my family back after a long stress of brake up by an evil lady so with all this help from DR AISABU, I want you all on this forum to join me to say a huge thanks to DR AISABU, and I will also advice for any one in such or similar problems or any kind of problems should also contact him his email is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com) he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life. Once again his email address is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com)

    HE IS SPECIALIZING IN THE FOLLOWING SPELL.

    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) If you always have bad dreams.
    (3) If you want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) If you want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) If you want to be rich.
    (7) If you want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10) If you want to stop your divorce.
    (11) If you want to divorce your husband.
    (12) If you want your wishes to be granted.
    (13) Pregnancy spells to conceive baby
    (14) Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
    (15) Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart.
    (16) If you have any sickness like (H I V), (CANCER) or any sickness.
    (17) If you need prayers for deliverance for your child or yourself.
    Once again make sure you contact him if you have any problem he will help you. His email address is (aisabulovespell@gmail.com) contact him immediately.

  • Stacey Lee

    I am her to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 6 years with 3 good lovely kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had a fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me cause i loved him with all my heart and didn’t want to loose him but everything just didn’t work out… he moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell casterdr.trust who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and cast a love spell on him. Within 7 days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our fourth child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there needs it… You can email him at: Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or you can call him +2348156885231.

  • stella kyes

    I and my boy friend as been separated for a long period, I cam across different spell caster and they were all unable to bring my lover back. I was so sad and almost gave up on him when i met a spell man called DR OLOKUM, who helped me get my lover back. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldnt believe it would happen. He also helped me with success spell, I have been living happily with my lover now and will be getting married soon. Here is his contact if you need his help. LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

  • Emiliano Babarah

    Oh my God, I’m so glad to tell everyone the real thing that happen to me…My name is EMILIANO BABARAH. If i refuse to share this testimony it means i am selfish to my self and to people i love so much whom might have similar problems, March 16th about something 7:23pm after taken our dinner my husband got crazy started calling a lady name Melisa I love you, i was so mad and started crying like a baby…then my husband left home for the idiot called Melisa, and never return back home then i believed when he uthen nderstand his self he will surly come back to apology, but instead he left me So i complained to my friend she told me she was having such problems in her marriage until she was introduce to DR ORIOMON who specializes in bringing back broken homes and broken marriages DR ORIOMON cast a spell for me in May 4th surprisingly my husband came home May 6th apologizing that i should forgive him that it will never happen again, i was so glad and gave the thanks to DR ORIOMON who save my marriage, if you are having similar problem you can contact him and His email address is (oriomonspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can still save your marriage if u really love your husband.

    Thanks EMILIANO BABARAH_USA.

  • Jay Stacey

    Good Day,

    My name is stacey, am here to testify of a great spell caster called Dr INEGBEDION. This man is truly a great spell caster indeed. I contacted this great man for a help and just within two days my problem was completely solved. My ex came back to me just within 48hours begging me to accept him back. Now we are fully back again as lovers, all thanks to zazah and his great 7 demons of love. His contact email address is, drinegbedionspellhome@outlook.com

    He is also specialized in the following.

    1. He can help you cast a spell to get pregnant.
    2. He can help you cast a Death Spell.
    3. He can help you cast a Promotion spell.
    4. He can help you cast Lottery spell.
    5. Spell of luck.
    6. Spell of Finance.
    7. If you have been scam before, he can help you cast a spell to get your money back.
    8.He can help you solve your low sperm count.

    And many more.. contact him on his private email and explain what you want him to do for you i assure you he shall help,His email is:drinegbedionspellhome@outlook.com

    Good Luck.

  • stacey Bruno

    I never believed in love spells or magic until I met this spell caster once when i went to see my friend in Indian this year on a business summit. I meant a man who’s name is Dr ATILA he is really powerful and could help cast spells to bring back one’s gone, lost, misbehaving lover and magic money spell or spell for a good job or luck spell .I’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 5 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3years. I really loved him, but his mother was against us and he had no good paying job. So when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him. At first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. And in 7 days when i returned to Canada, my boyfriend (now husband) called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married. I didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do. Well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid, and my husband also got the new job and our lives became much better. His email is atilahealinghome@yahoo.com.

  • MALISA

    i just got my ex back few days ago through the help of Dr Lawrence i am so happy that finally my ex is back i do love him so much and i can’t resist a moment without him in my life,really i have been looking for a real and genuine spell caster who could bring him back to me but thank God today he is back and i own all thanks to this great spell caster Dr Lawrence for his kind help drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail.com

  • JULIANA

    HI my name JULIANA AM FROM ESPANIO i want to DR baba who help me with my problems. My husband and i have been married for eight years now ,we live happily as good couples until a friend of mine cast a spell on my husband. he abandoned me and his family, he didn’t even want to see me at all because he was under a spell. it was now getting to six months since my husband abandoned me and i was frustrated and don’t know what to do until i meet this great spell caster on line, I tell him my problems and he give me four days assurance that he will come back to me. He help me break the spell that was caste on my husband and to my greatest surprise the fourth day my husband came knocking on my door and beg me for forgiveness. once again thank you DR Baba you can also contact him through his mail worldwidesupremetemple@gmail.com

  • Klara Sofiyko

    At last my happiness has been restored through Dr ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com , my mount is full of testimonies but here is a little i can say out of the whole wondrous things DR ABULU has done for me i was in a great and the sweetest relationship with my man JONES for two years and we were both in good terms and even planning of getting married this September 2014 so when he traveled for on the a business trip to Australia he melt a lady there whom he dated for two months and when he returned back to home he began to behave strange and with not long he said he is tired of this relationship looking for ways to break our love life and he finally push me out and bring in the Australia lady with him .this time i was frustrated and devastated about my love life so i vow not to rest until i am able to get back the only man i have ever loved so i began to look for a solution to restore my love life . one day my friend Jessica Sanchez came to me telling me about this man DR ABULU saying this man has helped he restore his life so i said let me also try as i have no other choice in getting back Jones . at first when i contacted he i thought nothing will work but it was like a dream and surprise when he told me go my child i have and wait for Jones can within the next two days and to my greatest surprise Jones actually called me and was pleading on the phone saying he was under a spell from the other lady so with all this great things DR ABULU of abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com has done for me i want you all to join me to say thank you to this man, and if any one here is also passing through a similar problem i will advice to contact today on his web site http://abuluspiritualtemple.webs.com and i know your problems will still be solve
    KLARA, SOFIYKO

  • Scary

    I have a female friend (I’m a female) who begs me to go with her and her husband on little trips. I don’t feel comfortable as I am a third wheel. I often wonder if they are thinking of mingled sex. Why would a woman want another woman to join her and her husband on trips.

  • CYNTHIA

    hello everyone this really worked and i am proud to testify also. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try this prophet that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spiritual work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise this prophet helped me and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn’t love me anymore. well, i can not say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship try him here is his email prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com of a truth he really helps again his email his prophet.briancarn@yahoo.com

  • Henry Nancy

    This is a testimony that I will tell to every one to hear. I have been married four 4years and on the fifth year of my marriage, another woman had a spell to take my lover away from me and my husband left me and the kids and we have suffered for 2years until I met a post where this man DR OLOKUM have helped someone and I decided to give him a try to help me bring my lover back home and believe me I just send my picture to him and that of my husband and after 48hours as he have told me, I saw a car drove into the house and behold it was my husband and he have come to me and the kids and that is why I am happy to make every one of you in similar to met with this man and have your lover back to your self. His email:lavenderlovespell@yahoo.com.

  • michael

    who ever is reading this testimony today should please celebrate with me
    and my family because it all started like a joke to some people and others
    said it was impossible. my name is Michael i live in Chicago i am happily
    married with two kids and a lovely wife something terrible happen to my
    family along the line, i lost my job and my wife packed out of my house
    because i was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular
    time. i manage all through five years, no wife to support me to take care
    of the children and there come a faithful day that i will never forget in
    my life i met an old friend who i explain all my difficulties to, and he
    took me to a spell caster and and the name of the temple is called, DR
    Okundonor, i was assure that everything will be fine and my wife will come
    back to me after the wonderful work of Dr Okundonorgreatspell, my wife
    came back to me and today i am one of the richest man in my country. i
    advice you if you have any problem email him with this email:
    dr.okundonorgreatspell@gmail.com and you will have the best result. take
    things for granted and it will be take from you. i wish you all the best.

    Contact: dr.okundonorgreatspell@gmail.com (or contact him through his mobile:+2348072099116

  • joan nie

    I was searching for help on the internet to get my ex lover whom will got divorced back, i came across this wonderful man called Doctor Jatto of drjattosplltemple who did a nice job by helping me to get my divorced husband back within 48hours.. I never believe that such things like this can be possible but now i am a living testimony to it because Doctor Jatto actually brought my lover back, If you are having any relationship problems why not contact Doctor JattoTEMPLE via email on: (drjattosplltemple@gmail.com) Then i promise you that after 48hours you will have reasons to celebrate like me. JOAN from USA,

  • Sandra Belek

    Hello I’m Belek Sandra if not for Dr. Oraede my marriage would have become a history, I got married to my husband in the year 2006, so we had a son, we were living happily everything changed suddenly, he don’t come home anymore, he even asked for a divorce, I was so shocked to hear that from him, because he was not like that when i met him, i saw Dr. Oraede website and I visited it, I saw different types of things he can do so i know he can also change my husband’s mind, I contacted him via his email, he advised me on what to do, which i did, I did all because of my wonderful son, he did a spell and my husband came back and canceled the divorce and now we are living happily, he even bought me a car; Contact him via his email dr.oraedespellhome@hotmail.com, contact me on sandrabelek@hotmail.com or visit his website on the-great-dr-oraede.webs.com

  • Sandra Belek

    Hello I’m Belek Sandra if not for Dr. Oraede my marriage would have become a history, I got married to my husband in the year 2006, so we had a son, we were living happily everything changed suddenly, he don’t come home anymore, he even asked for a divorce, I was so shocked to hear that from him, because he was not like that when i met him, i saw Dr. Oraede website and I visited it, I saw different types of things he can do so i know he can also change my husband’s mind, I contacted him via his email, he advised me on what to do, which i did, I did all because of my wonderful son, he did a spell and my husband came back and canceled the divorce and now we are living happily, he even bought me a car; Contact him via his email dr.oraedespellhome@hotmail.com, contact me on sandrabelek@hotmail.com or visit his website on the-great-dr-oraede.webs.com.

  • t

    My son is married and has kids he works. Before work he gets the kids ready for school they eat and he leaves for work, his wife stays up all night and sleeps all day…the kids get on the bus. She does’t work, clean, cook, or laundry. My son comes home from working 10 hours and, he cooks, cleans, does laundry,does homework with his kids. She does nothing her mother taught men do it all. He is sad and discouraged. Any answers…..

    sleeps ad there kids get themselves on the bus.

  • aliceinwonder

    The seductress. The woman who offers the married man his every sexual fantasy.

  • Mary

    How about his grow adult daughter who has tried to cause our break up she is a manipulating little bitch , who is now not speaking to her dad till he ” Divorces Me” Hunny I ain’t going no where , get over your little self satan comes in all shapes and in all forms !!

  • Tobee

    Thanks to Dr oshoum, i am very grateful to him for bringing my Man back after two years of broken marriage because of pregnancy problem. I really do love my man and he is my source of finance. we love to have kids and his dad want to see him bear kids before he can will his property to him but i could not bear him a child dew to my age then he decide to live me for another another lady. Now we are back together and i have a baby boy for him. for any marriage problem contact oshogumspelltemple@live

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075.

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075,

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075,.,

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075.

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075..

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075……

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075,.

  • Sara

    I’m exhausted & don’t know where to turn. I’ve been married for 14 years, we have 4 children. He had a 3 month aggair that ended last Sept when I caught him. There were several other one night stands with other women before that throughout the years. I have always stayed & tried to work through. This time, we started christian counseling. I have seen the marriage moving forward, but the pain of his affair is still so raw. He is trying and I have seen his changing with God in his life, but he gets tired of me not trusting, questioning, etc. Most of our arguments are about his job… The young girls who work in his office, any overnight travel is a nightmare for me, even Linkedin is a problem for me… I want to stay, but some days I am so tired of this fight. It feels impossible to rebuild after so much has been torn down.

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    Every cage of darkness breaks in the name of
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  • Briscoe

    My marriage is falling apart and I’m out of energy to fight for it. We were married when we were 19. Now I am 22 and he is 24. We have lost any and all love for each other. We are two people who live separate lives and in the same
    House. The only reason I am still here is because I know it is GODS commandment to stay with your spouse until death do you part. But I am at my whits end in misery.

  • Dirce Ries

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is Dirce Ries am from Finland. My boyfriend Charles Morgan left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine Philipper Claw told me that she saw some testimonies of this great PRIEST KUVUKI that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest with his email { Kuvukispelltemple@hotmail.com } on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend called me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. I still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you PRIEST KUVUKI for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address { Kuvukispelltemple@hotmail.com }

  • Alex Becky

    ….GREAT DR. TAJU THAT HELP ME SAVE MY RELATIONSHIP.
    Good Day everybody, my names is ALEX BECKY, am from the United State
    of America, i want to give thanks and honor to Dr. Taju for the great
    work he did for me, he brought my lover within 24 hour which i never
    taught it will ever come through in my life, but this great man Dr. Taju
    proved to me that powers can do wonders, i got his contact from a
    friend in the USA who he helped, this friend of mine told me that this
    man is great but i felt as hmm are you sure? cause i hardly believe
    those kind of things,so she told me not to worry that when i contact
    him, that she is guaranteeing me 100% that my lover will come back that
    if it does not work that she will be the one to give me back my money,
    to show her sincerity to me, she gave me her car that if it does not
    work that and she did not pay me the money that i spent that she i
    should collect her car and she gave me all the documents, i was so so
    surprised she was very serious about it so that was how i contacted him
    and i told him what i want he just told me that everything will be done
    within 24 hours so with the assurance my friend gave me i was having
    confident, so in the next 24 hours that he told me i just heard a knock
    on my door i never knew it was mark, so that was how i opened the door
    the first thing he did was to go on his knees, he started begging me to
    forgive him that he is very sorry for everything, i was really surprised
    and was also happy, so that was how i forgived him and now we are
    living together happily than ever before, and am using the media to
    invite my friends on my wedding which will coming up on 24/10/2014, am
    very happy thanks be to Lucy who gave me his contact and honor be onto
    Great DR. TAJU who helped a lot, if you need his help or you want to
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  • Julie Hughes Roth

    I have a dear friend that has been going through what I think is a spiritual attack on her marriage. She tells me that she and her husband were extremely connected, but then he admitted to using porn, yet again. (3rd time) Now on top of that, her husband told her that he has been having overwhelming episodes of sadness and guilt over a girlfriend that died 37 years ago. (yes that’s right) The girl had asked him if she should go back to her country and of course he said yes, you miss your father, go ahead. She and her father were murdered shortly after she returned there. He told her about this woman and he showed great emotion, so now she doesn’t know whether to feel bad for him or be mad because he is think about this other woman from 37 years ago. I still think it could be a satanic attack… 37 years later… sounds suspicious to me.

  • j boy

    Before i got married i did my wrongs by cheating and as we moved on we got married and hate started building on in our relationship from my wife and financial problems were hitting us at the same time but mywife never came to me with her concerns about bills being paid knowing i would do anything for her and my kids and at the same time she started flirting with guys on the phone and in person til i found out and confronted her but at the same time not knowing that all this pressure was in her then it build up hate towards me and she told me she love me but not in love and now were wfyiorking on our relationship to see if she can forget about the past of my wrong doings and fall in love with me again she wants her space and we’re living in different houses til things can get back to normal ?do you all think our relationship can go back to how it was because i need my family back that’s my life i really want her to love me again since we were married i never once cheated again im faithful all the way through i’ve done changed my ways and im off the things i use to be on to make me act the way i did before our marriage someone please give me an answer cause i really dont want this to end we have too much history together 9years almost 10 and 4 almost 5 married someone please help me with this

  • weakwife

    Most of the time it is the woman because they are more
    Suttle, or slick about conversations with friends, they test the waters of who else is available just in case. Then come home asking all kinds of silly questions to her husband…..again testing the water. A man just do what he is going to do a hen he feels rejected. The church is worst for blqming the mqn for everything and not really seeing the Jezibell Spirit running though the marriage.

  • Andrea June

    soooo……when any of this happens…what do you do about it? im finding there is alot of finger pointing in Christians and marriage but no solutions. maybe all you wise people should think about turning your articles around if you really want to help. I came here to find some solutions and just found more hurt that makes me want to divorce even more. almost feels like Satan has his hand on this, not God.

    • Mary Gray Moser

      I want to help, Andrea June, or just listen, whatever.
      marygraymoser@verizon.net

    • Detran Fitzgerald

      you are so right sister!

  • bettye

    I feel like my husband not interested any more. Sex every three weeks sometime longer. He spend most of his time outside when he home. I believe he find his pleasure in smoking. It try to hide the fact. I always walk up and smell it. No matter what I do no response.

  • KariJae

    My husband and I have been struggling from the beginning. He found out after we got married that I was having a physical relationship prior to the marriage with my ex but stop before we got married. But I continued to communicate with him for 6 months verbally on the phone and via text. Til I realize I was still cheating by doing that. I came out and told my husband the whole truth, yet after 4 years I truly don’t think he believes me. He has been verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive. He is an alcoholic yet refuses to stay sober. He says I am being controlling and he is sick of it. He also has an adiction to pornography. It seems that he would rather masterbate then be intimate with me. Then somehow it gets turned around to be my fault. Because 3 years ago I choose to become sober. And stay sober! Help! Prayers needed feeling overwhelmed!!!!!

  • Tanna

    I just divorced my cheating husband of over 20 years after he abondened me and his 19 year old son. He started an emotional affair with a young co worker then went on to have a sexual affair. He was addicted to pornography. He was an atheist. As a Christian I had a big problem with filing for a divorce. My ex is a cop and used any power to be vindictive. I won the divorce case , I was awarded permanent alimony and half of his army retirement. I have no contact with the ex. I think God took him out of my life to have peace. My son and I were baptized 2 years before the discard. After that everything went downhill.
    I have a good life now All the ex has is his whores.
    I pray for forgiveness for filing because I know how much God hates divorces.

  • James Stanley

    This article sounds anti-male. The examples are done with the husband. Another thing is that this article sounds like people should just get divorced and follow Jesus. Actually the couple should fight for their marriage and serve Jesus together. This article was very poorly written and I hope no one follows its guidance. The part where they “married someone with poor character” is terrible. That’s like slapping God in the face and screaming to Him that He can’t change anyone and if you’re doing that then I feel for you in the day of judgment. There were a couple of good points but overall this was one horrible article.

  • NVA2013

    Oh how I pray that my husband is being true to me. Many times I wonder if there is really a thing called manifest destiny. This is my husbands 3rd marriage and my second. We both brought children to this relationship from prior marriages. I realize the wrongs committed in my first marriage and swore that would not occur this time around. We me with our pastor for months prior to our marriage to ensure we were ready to make this THE MARRIAGE that lasts forever. I asked many times if my husband was ready for this commitment and he seemed completely devoted.
    3 weeks after our wedding he started “innocently” talking with another woman. This lead to him slipping into depression and spending time with her, lying to me, avoiding spending time with me and to this day – I am still not exactly sure on everything that happened between them but I know lines were crossed. I continuously questioned the attitude he developed after the wedding and began questioning myself and my actions. I eventually ended up at the Dr. office and on anxiety medication.
    I found text messages on his old cell phone- saying things no wife wants to see. I confronted “the other woman” that did not deny that he was having an affair with her. When I confronted him, he ended things but didn’t seem to be as remorseful as I guess I needed him to be. However, we hadn’t even mailed out our thank you notes from our wedding. How do you end things at that point? How do you walk away when you just uttered the words until death us do part?
    Amazing enough, the weekend I found this information out. Our pastors message was about how the devil gets into peoples minds. NOT in the form of what we envision the devil to look like. He gets in looking like “one of us”. The message was powerful enough; I knew I needed to help my husband fight to be a better person.
    We agreed that he seek counseling. And that seemed to help him. Things seemed to get better however I still fight the doubt (devil) that seems to sneak into my thoughts daily. I battle with the idea that he is straying or will stray again. I battle wanting to control every moment of his life to ensure he is being true to me. I HATE the idea that he still has a cellphone that is “locked” so I can’t see what is going on during his day. (In his defense I have never confronted him to allow me this access. I feel it will show my weakness and lack of trust).
    How do I full-heartedly put the past In the past once and for all? Is that even possible? If not, how do I make peace with the past and not let it influence our future?

    • lisa jones

      the fact that the man was on his third marriage should have given you some insight

    • JenClark74

      I don’t know if you’ll see this, since it’s been some time; but I would encourage you to also see a counselor or even get some pastoral counseling. As important as the counseling is for him, to help him to recognize his sin (and the roots of his sin, why he falls into that particular sin repeatedly, etc), counseling for you can help you with learning how to let go of your fears (and identify where they come from…our fears reveal so much about our hearts and our idols), how to let go of the desire to control his life in order to try to protect yourself (and instead learn to trust in the Lord’s protection over you), and lots more that could help you find some freedom that it seems is lacking in your life.

      I pray that each of you will look to the risen Saviour for your freedom, and not to each other, as so often we do in marriage. We put unreasonable expectations on each other, and often turn our spouses, or even the marriage itself, into our idols. We end up fearing the loss of our spouse or marriage even more than we fear God. I speak from my own personal experience, and I can also tell you there is hope on the other side…when you trust God to be the only perfect person in your life. Our spouses will never be able to love us the way He can and does!

      • NVA2013

        Thank you! We continue to struggle and many days I feel like God is the only one keeping this marriage together. I am not a quitter & we will figure this out!

  • lifes not fair

    i wish there was more about women. i hear men men men but hardly ever about women…

  • movingon

    I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, and he has a severe problem with porn and lying, amongst other things. I have given him multiple chances to make this right, but it just keeps getting worse. I love him with all my heart, but I have to let go. It is very sad to me that he would choose a fantasy life over someone that loves him very much. I can no longer do this. My self esteem is gone, my trust for him is gone. He lost someone that really loved him due to his own selfishness!

  • Chris Crawford

    Me and my wife have no sex she expects me to be perfect like her ex and she cares more about her son and job we have one car so she takes the car to work all the time and I have to find a way to get to work and she always complains about me and work I’ve gone through 5 jobs this year because of it and 8 out of 10 of these seem to be our problem I try everything I can but she is blind to all these problems and thinks the only problem is me getting a better job shes big polar as well I need advice

  • Chriss

    Im married with a 4 year old 5 months pregnant we love tge lord my husband never came home Jan.2 i never saw it coming i loved my marriage he was having an affair at work and has moved in with her an im so damaged it hurts to hear from him he seems so okay im.here so hurt he crys and i ask him to go speak with our pastor but he’s not for it he’s gone

  • Jaded

    Better to be single and lonely, I’ve heard it said. This is totally discouraging. It seems even if one tried to do it all the right way it can still be a disaster.

    • Michelle

      That’s because many come into it thinking that it’s gonna be perfect like a cheesy Disney movie…and that the love you have for each other is all you need. But it’s so much more than that, it’s alot of work & effort. And only knowing the true love of God will help you understand what love really is…and show a husband how to love his wife vice versa, especially when you face adversity.

  • mg

    My husband and I marriage for 7yrs and 5months now we live happy but when his 35yrs old son stay with us that marriage is starting falling apart , we start fighting the reason why because my husband treat him like a kid he cooked for him even take the food in his bedroom, his son is so lazy he don’t even clean his bedroom , my husband always stood by him, he tolerate him a lot.im 40 yrs old and my husband is 60.we have a big fight because his son cannot pay his car insurance plus no registration and now he got arrested and his son blame it to me that’s why he didnt tell his dad because I will start a fight, what did he expect ill be happy? His dad has no job for 2yrs now and im the one who’s working, I want his son to get out of my house but his father insisted ,because he said he cannot afford to be his own, im so stress don’t know what to do, I know he choose his son over me.how can a 35 yrs old cannot survive by his own.his son have 4 children with different women , how come he make so many kids and dont know how to take care of himself.I dont know if I can handle this anymore.I love my husband but he doesn’t care about my feelings.All he think is his son.plus our sex life is an unified he like watching porn in his cellphone many times I know it coz I check his phone and it shows what day he been watching, while im working or sleeping.I’ll blind of this things because I want this marriage work, I feel sorry for him of what he did , so shame.I know his son cannot take care of him when he gets old if I decided to end up this marriage. Please I need some advice out there , I dont deserve this ill be a good wife to him for all this years .Please help.

  • Sinistaria

    I am have been with my husband now for fifteen years. He has a friend who came, out of the closet, about six or seven years ago. Over the years this friend has in my opinion crossed a line. He tells my husband constantly that he loves him. This friend states that it is purely a friendship love, nothing more. Yet when he says it or texts it to my husband, he will state i love you then add my husbands first and middle name. He sends my husband little heart emoji’s and will even break into the middle of a discussion he is having with my husband, with an I Love you. Now this has bothered me for some time. I have brought it up to my husband that I didn’t think this sort of thing was right and I think that this friend should stop saying it. I even messaged the friend myself, telling him how uncomfortable it made me and how I thought that he should not be saying these things. His friend justified himself to me because he had been depressed and it was my husband who helped him out of it and that i could not possibly know how it felt. Then I was blocked from this person on that social media page. probably so i couldn’t see that person posting stuff on my husband’s “wall” I confronted my husband with this and he told me that he has had a talk with this friend and his friend swears it is all in the name of friendship…. nothing more. My husband also stated that he has no control over what someone says or feels for him and that I should not get upset over something that he is not doing. It has now been over three years and this friend is still his friend. This friend also still texts my husband heart emoji’s and says I love you to him still. my husband just ignores them and doesn’t respond to him when this friend does these things. My husband also says that he has told this friend that it makes him uncomfortable when this friend does this, even if it is in the name of friendship. I don’t know if i am right to be upset over something like this or if because the bible states to love all, i should be ok with it because my husband does not hold any affection other than friendship for this man and the friend in question swears that it is only done in friendship…
    What do I do? Am I wrong in being upset?

    • Lexie

      The Lord says we should abstain from any form of evil .i believe your marriage comes first if this man is causing you grief your hubby has to let go

      • Mary Gray Moser

        Amen.

  • TOM

    I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 7 YEARS TO MY WIFE WHO HAS A DAUGHTER NOW 18.. OVER THE LAST 4 YEARS MY STEPDAUGHTER HAS DROPPED OUT OF SCHOOL.. NO MATTER WHAT SHE WAS ASKED TO DO THERE WAS A POWER STRUGGLE AND WOULD NOT LISTEN… SHE HAS TRIED TO COMMIT SUICIDE 4 TIMES AND HAS TURNED MY WIFE AGAINST ME BECAUSE I WOULD NOT TOLERATE HER DISRESPECT TOWARDS MY WIFE AND MYSELF…I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO… I WAS RAISED TO HONOR THY MOTHER AND FATHER…DONT KNOW HOW MUCH LONGER I CAN HOLD ON TO THIS CHAOTIC MARRAIGE..

    • Michelle

      My advice would be to use the counseling ministries that the church provides for families. Our church has counseling for marriages, families, etc. Put your step-daughter into one of the youth ministries as well. They have bible studies & activities for the youth. She can make friends with the youth that already attend & learn about the gospel at the same time.

      I know she is technically your wife’s daughter, but you both need to be on the same page…don’t let the enemy divide and conquer you. You both together must practice patience, and also fight for your daughter in the spiritual realm through prayer. You are currently facing adversity, be wise, and don’t just preach Jesus, but show her who He is as well by portraying the attitude of Christ. Don’t play church. I will pray for you, God Bless 🙂

  • Terri

    My husband and I have been married for 12 years. The 10 points that you made
    ( above ) have or are already happening …on # 10 …. I have not lied to my husband
    Not about anything that I can think of …. He has lied to me ….. I have no proof of an affair though. What do we do? All the above has or is happening.

  • Kenya

    I am a Christian, my husband is not really commited. Was laid off from my job & unemployment ran out for me. In the mean time my son from former marriage was killed in auto accident about 5 mknths ago. Little did I know he was complaining to an ex that I did not have a job & she does not care for me at all- while tryihg toonrecoup from lost of son & still trying to be a good wife – I find out that they are having an affair. He left me 3 weeks ago, changed his number & i rec’d divorce papers 2 days ago. I am devasted as it seems this worldly woman just snatched him away as I do rsalize he opened the door sonehow. I absolutelt love him so much & would lofd to reconcile if possible as he is my covernant partner & how is it right that a reckless woman can have a man I have helped to be delivered from rrugs 12 years ago, councelled & loved, ( has not used drugs & works a job where they perform test often) this woman is tye person who got him into drug use and actually called- said he is so awesome now, that he looks grat, has his zct togethere, grwat job & focused & that she will make sure he does not comd back to me. He does not live with her is sharing an apartment with his sister for now. Praying, hurt, sad – really would like marriage healed. Help!

  • Gregory

    Why women and men are influenced by their friends to do the wrong thing to on their spouse?

  • Gregory

    How do you deal with 2 of your spouses friends that disrespect our marriage and both of them are getting a divorce? Do i stay tub or divorce?

  • kaitlyn

    I have been married for 5 years and my husband and I have two boys. He wants more kids and I don’t. This is causing a huge rift in our relationship. Tbh, I never really wanted kids, maybe 1 but that’s it. Im really smart, graduated top of my class in college and even broke a record on how many awards I got in competition. Now im a stay at home mom, my husbands job wasnt conducive to me working with kids, we would have never seen each other so I chose to stay at home rather than work. And now that he has a mon-fri 8-4 job, one boy will be starting school soon, I started bring up the possibility of getting a job and helping him not have the stress of being a sole provider. But when he brought up having another kid, I immediately shot him down and I admit this was wrong and rude of me. I apologized and explained that my answer was still the same but my delivery was unacceptable. And ever since then we have argued (only 1 was really bad) and one night be broke my will. I just agreed so we would stop talking about it. And I find myself randomly sobbing at the thought of having another kid. Mostly out of the fear of dissapointing him because both times I was pregnant he wanted a girl. His done said that if its a boy again he’d be happy but in my opinion I think he is just trying to smooth troubled water. If he is going to be happy with 3 boys why can’t he be happy with 2? My life is busy enough- we are part if the p&w team at church and we are the youth pastors. So Sunday and Wednesdays are hectic with two (very active) children. And our church is rather large so I don’t like them running around (they are 4 & 2 btw) Wednesday nights are just plain stressful. And he wants to add another baby to all of this so I would be doing everything im doing now on less sleep (the boys still don’t sleep all night- the 2 year old is out of diapers and has been bed wetting alot recently.) with all this being said, I want Yall to understand that my husband is a wonderful person whom I love dearly. He is smart, funny, kind, and his looks just add to the package 😉 But im not one of those women who just want to stay at home and have babies. Im done in my mind. I am happy and content with my boys. If I never even got a job, I would still be happy. I guess I just don’t want to be stuck at home. I guess I just want the option of being able to get out of the house without 3 kids dragging behind me. Im the youngest of 3. So I saw what my mom had to do to get us out of the house and she was always stressed out. And im the only girl with two older brothers and I hated it. I hated it with a passion. My brother closest in age made it his personal mission to torture me. Ive asked him about this now that we are older- his reason? He enjoyed it. It was funny to him to watch me cry cause of the things he called me or did to me. He isn’t like that now. Im actually closer to him than the older brother who was nice to me. But I don’t want to subject anyone else to that. And I bet your thinking “where was my parents during all this?” they were there. They lectured and spanked (I live in the south- yes we spank, not beat, there is a difference) till their faces turned blue. It did NO GOOd. And my youngest son remind me so much of him its scary. So put two and two together.
    I still haven’t stopped taking my birth control becAuse we both did come to the conclusion that if we did have more children we need a bigger place. Our place is tiny.
    I feel withered. Like nothing I am doing is making him happy unless I have another kid. And im not trying to make moms who do have lots of kids and stay at home seem bad or anything. I admire them, its just not what I want out.

  • Heart Broken

    how do you deal with a wife who sleeps with our chiildren and not with me and has put stipulations on sex.

  • skenami

    It’s my first time joining any discussion online. First I responded to Gerry, which felt like it was a prompting from the Holy Spirit. Now I don’t feel like typing about what’s going on in my marriage after that word of advice I gave to Gerry. Go figure, just being a human and thinking I could do this alone. Anyways, this is my issue… My husband and I have been married for over 2yrs, and I could count in one hand or maybe two how many times we’ve been intimate since we made our vows. Of course it didn’t start that way, but that’s another story. Now within those times I did get pregnant and now we have 5 month old. I’ve been fighting to stay in this marriage, but God insists there’s a break through. We have been blessed in so many ways, but when it comes to our relationship it just yucky. To get to my point without so many words I’m starting to hate him. I don’t want to hate him cause I’m aware of the devils trick but the more I stay biblically grounded the more he pushes me to the edge. He really doesn’t understand me and I guess what I’m doing now is just venting because I’ve isolated myself from the world, so now its God, my son and me. What I’m asking from this community is to keep me in prayer because I’m aware the devil is trying to steal my breakthrough. Peace and blessings to all, Skenami

  • vito cold

    i have been married 12yrs and i am not allowed to kiss my wife in the mouth or touch her vagina. i know i am being punished. sex is me getting on top and ejaculating with no movement from her, not even a hug.

  • vito cold

    hello everyone. married 12yrs with no passionate lovemaking. no infidelity issues, we trust one another, both work, children grown and i am not allowed to kiss my wife in the mouth, no touching her vagina, having sex with my wife is simple as it gets. i get on top with no movement from wifey, not even a hug, no kissing at all. then i ejaculate and that is it. this is my sex life 12yrs in a row. resentment is starting to kick in.

  • desi

    my wife want me to make a decision I am assistant Pastor and she say I need to step down from my position and take care of my family but I can’t do that because God called me and my wife want me to if I don’t step down she want a divorce can somebody help me or give me some answers I want to make a decision.

    • jeff

      She’s quite the helpmeet isn’t she? Divorce you huh? I guess she is submissive in everything just like Eph says she should be and her behavior is inline with 1Pe 3?

      I would find a lawyer have the papers filled out and give them to her.
      HOWEVER, If you are not financially taking care of the family than shame on you. Also, if you are doing more than 8-10 hours more than 5 days per week, you need to re-evaluate priorities.

      If you are 8-10 hours 5 days per week and can support your family financially than I can tell you now she will never be happy.

      I not a betting man, but I bet you have to beg for sex and perform at home in what amounts to work ie., doing housework etc to just get mercy sex.

      Does she stay at home? Does she work?

      You need to absolutely end her EVER, EVER using the D word as an ultimatum or threat. Get ready to end it and call her bluff. If you have kids I feel bad for you, but as someone who’s wife has only come around to being respectful and submissive in the last 6 months of our 20 year marriage, I can say that I would have gladly ended it earlier. I believed her words until about a year ago. At that point I told her put up or shut up. She was going to get a hotel one night last summer and it wasn’t even over an arguement. I threw all of her clothes and toilletries on the back porch. I told her she has 1/2 hour to get home, if she wasn’t I will be changing locks, changing bank accounts in the morning. I took her 15 minutes to get home. It took her 2 hours to put her clothes back into the dresser and closet and toilletries away. I took over the money the next day and told her I no longer trust what she says only what she does.

  • melanie

    I see a lot oif long time married couples at church sitting with there children between them including teen children makes me sad they should be sitting next to each other put the children on the other side of the parents when the children are gone they will have a hard time closing that gap .why do couples do this or if the ones do sit with each other itys shoulder to shoulder never se them hug or hold hands i feel its up to couples with strong christian marriages to show the young generation you can still be in love after 2o ,30 40 years ,I love that my husband always has a pertective arm or hand on me and always pulls me close to pray as one when preacher says lets pray love feeling cherrished but feel sad when i look around and see other couples wasting time ,

  • kimmy h

    I have a question im married for the secon time and my issue is with my husband kid which a man in prison csll and wrote to him about these last two kids, he told him thank you for taking care of my kids, when the girl was 12 yried to sing at me becsuse she didn’t want to for us to take her and her brother, and one of her friends home after a family picnic, well after the conferentation she call her mother and lied on the phone and that I hit her and the mother told her to tell him that she was coming out there to beat that band call the police on him, but I had left afterwards he called me to pick him I p and told me he slap her in the mouth because the mother told her to tell him what she said on the phone, the next day dcfs came to my home and left a note to come to the office, we went because they were doing an investigation and the investigator didn’t see that I had anything to do with it, but the dame day a cook county police came and subpoena us to court said we both kicked, draged, beat stomp her and they were giving us to years in jail they were going to take away my son which was only 14 at the time , the plea they gave my husband is to go to counseling or do two years, now that she in college he runs and kisses up to her knowing she is not his and dont want to face the fact he wanrs me to have something to do with her and I dont trust her because of the problems we had with her coming to the house on the weekends she keep calling her mother lying on me, but he is putting this 20 year old in front of me and our marriage I know she has somthing else up her sleeves and I dont trust her or him now he acts like is his wife, what she I do kimmy.

  • clearbluethunder

    I have been married 42 years and recently found out my husband has had several affairs in all the years we have been married. He is passive aggressive does everything he can to avoid being at home or having any kind of conversation with me. I realize now that he has never kept his word but I use to put it down to just his personality and his upbringing not being the best. However, in church he can pray long eloquent prayers and pass the plate and serve the Lord’s supper. No one would believe what he is since I have always defended him to the bitter end on any matter and even stood up for him with my kids. On the other hand, he has never stood up for me. I am debating divorcing him since I cannot forgive him because he continues to lie. My dilemma is that I don’t want to lose what I have built and invested in for so long.

    I am truly aware now that he has something wrong with him mentally and has spent a lifetime trying to convince me I am the crazy one for ever suspecting him of being unfaithful or any number of the accusations from people here and there over the years. I believed his lies. I have tried to forgive him because I know I need to but everything reminds me of all the terrible things he has done to destroy me, my faith and my life both emotionally and physically. What is so stupid is that my heart aches because of this monster. I still feel compassion for him. I tried to leave him but he falls to his knees pleading with me and breaks my heart. He says he can’t live without me. I sat by his side through heart attacks and other health issues he has had including now having impotence.

    I know! I was and am stupid! I thought being a submissive, humble, loving Christian wife, keeping up my knowledge while teaching my children, learning new things so I could converse intelligently, being an at home mother who raised her kids according to Christ, working in our business he wanted to start after he lost his job to help him get established, doing the books, doing all our taxes and being a good helpmeet for him was what every Christian man would desire. I should have realized that his constant comparing me to other women,derailing any conversation by stone silence or leaving or getting irrationally angry for no reason; pretending he couldn’t hear me no matter what conversation I started with him or anyone and would rudely interrupt me, hush me and whomever I was talking to; rolling his eyes and acting as if whatever I said was a bunch of wind no matter the subject, were all signs he is sick inside and not anywhere near being the Christian he wanted others outside our marriage to believe he is.

    I need to get my own identity back but I don’t know how. I felt we were one and that the marriage vows were a covenant to keep while he never did. I always kept myself sexually available but he would ignore me for months on end. When he finally confessed what he had done all these years, he told others it was my fault for not being sexually available to him. Another big lie after all the years of lies. I know I have been an enabler because I always made excuses for him and blamed myself when he would get in trouble which cost him his jobs over the past 42 years. But now, I am through with blaming myself. One reason I haven’t left is because I basically have paid for our home, our vehicles and our bills. I have so much invested that to walk away would be like giving him cart blanch everything I worked so hard to build. His name is on all the royalty my daddy gave me and also on all my investments.

    He knows If it had not been for me he never would have made it through college. I sat in on all his classes, took notes for him and wrote study sheets for him. I wrote all his essays. I didn’t go to college until my sons graduated high school. I got my degree and had two job offers when he decided to move us across the state to a place where we knew no one. He was following one of his whores but I didn’t know it at the time. She got him a job at the technical school where she worked. I substituted for a couple of years but never could get a teaching job there because nepotism was rampant so I got my real estate license and started selling real estate. I then got a job at the phone company in small business programming. He told me I needed to keep busy that he did not want a woman who would simply keep her home and work for charity causes with the ladies at church. Little did I know he simply did not want me available to know what he was doing.

    He is now in a phase of acting like a confessed martyr. He is still silent, uses passive aggressive techniques to derail family events then blames me. He insisted on taking over the bills because he retired from teaching and wanted to start a business. Then he tells me he is going to pay a bill or finish a job he started and then fails to complete either one. I don’t find out about it until I get the cancelled service, insurance or whatever he failed to pay as he said he would. I feel like I am living with a stranger, a dishonest and a perverted stranger. I don’t believe he has a single truth inside him. I feel nauseated as I write this. I can’t believe he has taken away so much of my life and left me battered emotionally. I have asked him to leave and he refuses. He says he likes having a roof over his head, a place to defecate and food to eat.

    I’m going to stop now. At least I got this off my heart. I’ve cooked supper and the sorry reprobate will eat too. I can’t avoid feeding him or washing his clothes or any of the other wifely things I have done for so long. When he tries to touch me now, I feel dirty.

  • Linda

    My husbands wants constantly a word of affirmation and doesn’t want me to point out what he did wrong even if he commits it in the same day. I tell him that is pride and he says where in the bible talks about that. I need answers because is been doing often.

  • Randy

    She seems to be married to Facebook and that is the love of her life! Sucks to be me but I am far from first pace!

  • brookcampbellsweet

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  • Tonya

    I will be married 7 years in a couple months. I dont know where to begin, really. I brought three children into the marriage. I was a very lost person many years ago. I made horrible choices often and hurt many people. I was selfish, lied, cheated and had a violent temper. It has taken me years to forgive myself for choices I made. I entered my marriage still a sinner, but a much better person than the one I was prior. I haven’t cheated or lied to my husband. I have opened my heart to God and have tried to walk in a righteous path. I am still far from perfect. I get frustrated at times and say things I don’t mean. I honestly cant think of anything else I’ve done during the time I’ve been married. I’ve had to overcome some tough stuff in the midst of my marriage. As soon as I got married, my husband’s personality completely changed. He became violent towards me. He would constantly start arguments, become hostile, accuse me of having mental issues and leave. I discovered an email from him to his brothers wife uncovering their affair. He convinced me it had happened long before our marriage. Turns out it happened one week before we married. I tried to forgive him and move forward. The fact is, we live next door to her. It has been very difficult to move on having to see her every day. Then my husband made it more difficult on me. Anytime we argued, he would get his family involved, including her, putting me down. The last 3 years have been somewhat better on that issue. Yet, each time the trust starts to restore, he lies to me about something. This is not our only problem. I have been very ill for 2 years. I have had multiple tumors. My husband has not been supportive during my illness. He has yelled at me when I needed to go to the ER. I had an intestinal blockage and had to drive myself. I had a tumor on my liver, bladder and left adrenal. Thankfully, the doctors are pretty sure I am healed. I worked before I became ill. My husband would accuse me almost daily of having affairs while at work. Now that I dont work, he withholds money from me. He has a hard time handling money and constantly lies to me about money issues. In church, he acts like he is a wonderful loving husband. I feel like I’m living day to day just squeaking by. I dont know what to do. He never shows any affection towards me unless he is wanting sex. I try to talk to him, but it only ends up with him accusing me of nagging or telling me I am bipolar. I even went to a psychiatrist because he had me convinced I had a problem. The psychiatrist said I only had high anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I’m being punished for the person I used to be. Sometimes I feel I expect too much and should be thankful he keeps a roof over our heads (for now).

  • Rose

    I’ve caught my Husband emails to a woman he worked with nd he would call her beautiful nd sexy, the names he’d call me. He was giving her money buying her things driving her car dwntwn. I tried to confront them both but he’d say I just needed a females point of view nd he’d tell her things we’d talk behind close doors. He had stopped showing me affection and intamacy. That was 2 years ago but just found out he kept txng her nd still buying her things. But denied it to my face. He praises her for talkn stuff to me when me being the wife confronted her but he got upset with me we’re separated due to he blames me for accusing him when he just got up nd left us with nothing. I want a divorce but it’s a Covenant marriage. I knw the Lord is against divorce I forgave him but he cnt forgive me never was I unfaithful. Should I just keep fighting for the marriage with prayers or let it go

  • Yulon Huddleston

    I have been married to a man for two and a half years to some one I have known for about 20 years. He always feels as if any thing I say or do I’m disrespecting him.Rather it’s giving a suggestion or me saying something other than what he’s saying. My suggestions or opinions are only validated when he says so and when he is set off and angry he don’t talk to me for days until he feels like it. During our arguments he’s very disrespectful and he believes it’s ok. Because he felt disrespected when I didn’t roll with him and had my own opinion on some things. I am very tired of the back and forth and I am at a total loss. I love him and in love with him but this is becoming a once a week thing. I’m just beginning to think that this is not going to work. He does not compromise and in a argument he’s allways a victim and feels I need counseling. I honestly beleive that alot of things he says is him speaking of his self and he don’t realize it. Let him tell it my non submitted additude which is not true. is the root to all our problems. I’m tiered! Yulon

  • Samuel Austin

    What if my wife is always saying things like mmm look at that? An I responsible for her actions? I am a blood bought child of God but she is not and it seems as if she wants to be. I have witnessed as much as I can and it seems as if it had no effect.
    Trust me when I say that I know what you mean when it seems as if the devil is sitting back and relaxing and laughing. I asked my wife to not watch out bring 50 shades into our home and she still did. After she watched it I felt like less of a man because of her interest in the movie and it has effected our love life and has drug me even farther down making it harder for me to read God’s word.
    Does anyone have any advice on how to handel this as God would want it to be?

  • jesu9900

    These Baptists are the biggest threat to Marriage , for the cardinal protection in a marriage is ” to flee Evil, and Cling to good. I saw these baptist ministers even in my life send private filth to wives( my christian wife), and drag silly women from their houses, It seems the ideal baptist marriage is what we see in the Cliniton’s , Hilliary is a perfect baptist wife . They shoud preach the truth first then the half truths. sex has nothing to with christian marriage. Deepak Regu and that side kick Andy in your church , I charge you to follow Christ

  • sharlene janish

    SO HOW CAN I WORK AGAINST THE ODDS AND SAVE MY MARRIAGE??

  • sharlene janish

    What can I do .pray for or even get help praying for, to save marriage and have husband true and also show love to me and turn his heart.It was said he needs to believe respect and fear the LORD because of his actions and pattern

  • alexis davids

    yOU KNOW DEEP DOWN IN YOUR HEART YOU ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER THEN THE DEVIL COMES AND GIVES YOU THE WEIRDEST FEELING WHAT CAN YOU DO TO STOP HIM………..

  • Sara

    My husband and me and have been together for 8 years and off and on he alwasya no matter where we live wants to run back to ohio eith his mom and his mamal and everytime i have followed him and now he did it agian but i w i nt follow so he says were done he tried ev err ything and hr just doesnt love me no more and then the three day trip down to ohio he is telling me he wont ingorne us and he will call and he areived there ib ohio last well today now he saying that he doesnt no where he stands with us and that i need to do me and leave him be he said he is gu,na get this great job and stay there n then when i say back u said u were coming back in a few months he blames this all on me sayibg im being pushy when i just want anxwers and he left me a crallpy truck thats needs alot of work and i have no job n cant get one that will take care of everything plus baby stting and im just so lost i feel like he is picking his mom n mamal over us and everyone is telli bfn g me i need to man up and stop letting him walk all over me

  • Michelle

    What about when your husband sleeps with my daughter(his stepdaughter ), and then thinks that because he repented that it’s all ok now, which is not true? You can’t make it better with I’m sorry and that God forgave him. There really is no come back from that

    • Geoff Robinson

      Michelle,

      Don’t be fool and trust a sexual perpetrator. Go to the appropriate authorities!!! Help your daughter file charges, or if she is too young, file them yourself! Sexual abusers are repetitive abusers. They like it. They find people they can manipulate with promises.

      Michelle – If your daughter has been raped by your husband, he has violated her and you. You and your daughter are both victims. She has lost a parent she should be able to trust. You have lost a husband that you cannot trust. Raping your daughter is Marital Infidelity! If your husband was truly repentant, he would turn him self in, face the charges and public discredit. He would do everything in his power to take the blame himself, and give you and her the time and space to see changes in him. True repentance encompasses a changed heart and appropriate actions to right the wrongs. It then take time(years) to rebuild what has been destroyed. (I doubt your husband has done anything like that.) He is doing the opposite. He wants to say “I’m sorry”, make up and have sex with you and probably will continue “doing” your daughter on the side. He wants your silence and your consent!!!!

      Forgiveness can be offered, but trust should take an appropriate time to rebuild. Forgiveness does not mean you let him have access to you or your daughter again. You can offer forgiveness whenever you soul allow you to let go of the issue, but you are not required to trust that individual just because you forgive him. If he is repentant, there are no expectations of you from his part. Repentance requires us to accept what we do and accept the penalty for that behavior. He will acknowledge that he is wrong and that his actions bring on a justifiable distrust, concern and rejection on your part. If he is truly repentant, he will accept your conditions of how you and your daughter need to deal with the situation.

      Michelle – go to the authorities today! Don’t let him have more opportunities.

      In case you are wondering, no I am not a counselor. I am an engineer, a believer and a father. I have been thru a 20 year abusive marriage and divorce. I am now dealing with what some would call parental alienation. Life isn’t always wonderful, but how we respond before God in tough situations indicates who you are deep inside.

      Sincerely,

      Geoff

  • Valerie

    Me and my fiance are not married yet but we already had fornications I’ve recently joined a Church and would like to take the next stop to marriage my fiance believes in the Lord but has yet to step into the Church he doesn’t want to be forced he says but is willing to marry what are some of the things we need to go threw to be pure to take the leap since I’ve been saved I’ve got backslid back to where I was being we have already fornicated before hand please help me understand I am feed up with fornications between us and although we are faithful to the other that’s no longer enough having the knowledge I have now

  • jesse

    Everytime my husband and I argue (which is usually nightly) he verbally attacks me. He either results to calling me names, complaining that I do/don’t do something he expects, he uses my own words against me, and I feel like he always is blaming me. It is too the point that I am guestioning my own judgment. Maybe it is me? He tells me I am evil, corrupt by the devil, that I need to go to church more. I am doing the best I can and I try everyday to be the best christian wife/mother I can be. I don’t want my boys growing up thinking these thoughts about me, or think it’s okay to treat their wife’s this way. What do I do? PLEASE HELP

  • tia

    Hello. My name is Tia & I have a concern. While this article has some very good information, my problem has been dealing with my husband’s addiction to marijuana. He doesn’t come home on time because he’s out getting high. He puts that and his friends & mother before our kids and me. We had a son in January of this year; it’s his first child, and yet he’s not really there for him. He’s not a good male role model for my daughter (from a previous marriage), and her real father cheated on me and abandoned her when she was 3mostly old. My husband now is the only father she’s ever known, and she used to be crazy abt him and couldn’t wait for us to get married. It took him years to ask me & wen he did, He PROMISED he stopped smoking altogether and he wanted to “do better and do right by me.” it has not changed. He started back smoking and getting high, not coming home on time & drinking a week after we got back from our honeymoon. I’ve prayed & cried & sought counseling & tried to hang in there, but I hate his addiction and I can’t do this anymore. Its like God doesn’t hear me or care. My daughtr doesn’t like the situation and doesn’t like 2 see me like this. Its not good for th baby either. Is it okay for him to still smoke & drink and get high when he asked me to marry him? Does God care abt drug use in marriage? Am I just expected to still b subservient and jst hurt and feel inadequate because I can’t compete with his habit.

  • Nickey P

    I love my wife…but it seems like she cant let my pass go …she say she fogives me ..but every other day she always bring it ….she belives in christr and talks about him …but she dont belive in da marriage rules geesh…delive have a gront row seat on this marraige…

  • Yolanda

    I was married for 13 yrs and my husband recently divorced me and is with another woman. A woman that he works with. What to I pray for now? Yes I love him and I didn’t want the divorce, but it happened anyways. Now he hates me. I know I didn’t do everything right either, but I tried. Now with this new lady he goes to church and he’s pretty much being who I needed him to be in our marriage. He even told me that God wanted him to divorce me. Would God do that?

  • Chance

    My husband is cheating and refuses to acknowledge the proof. He has put off discussing this for five weeks. He ignores me. I hardly see him anymore. He doesn’t want to spend time with me. I think he’s still seeing this girl. She claims to be pregnant by him. She’s due in a few weeks. Every time I bring it up he gets violently mad. He claims that I have no faith in him so he shouldn’t have to spend time with me. So I wait, and he always has an excuse to not talk about any of this. I fear that he and this other woman have plans to throw me out of our home. He acts like I am a walking disease. He won’t touch me. He laughs when I ask him why. I feel that he’s saving himself for her. I should add that my husband is almost fifty and his girlfriend is barely twenty two.
    I feel silly for this post. I have no friends though so I am completely alone in this.

  • anyomous

    This is the best article I ever read it hit my husband to the tee.it nailed him right on.i felt isolated and alone till I read this article im like do you know my husband

  • anyomous

    I am so angry hurt and destroyed my husband has been very unfaithful throughout our marriage he has been made leader in church yet still threatened his wife at home he has always had a hidden addiction to porn but I didn’t know until I had kids. He really just hides it better I believe. Ior its crossed the line over more. He has text coworkers while on dates with me I asked nice for him not too. Told him how it made me feel with his history and I didn’t feel good about it it was our date.He keeps it up.he has lied about his work hours pretending to get overtime and leave for work 6hours early for 6years he can fool a lot of people. But not me my problem is I care or did care.i believe hes still lieing to me who at ups goes in at330 am and gets home at 7pm some nights. Bull.also if it is not safe for me to touch his phone or ask so I just don’t and if I try he times it and makes sure I don’t look at certain things like text he has stolen my name and identity before as if I was involved in his sickness how do you trust 20 years of broken vows and it took me screaming saying what does jesus say about looking and he casually said I guess he says it’s cheating but he said he never cheated on me even though he was looking a real live local woman in the buff?.and swapping pics eventually what’s done in the dark but I can’t take hes sickness its almost like my body senses the evil when he goes astray.And hes done so much no one in this town would believe he is the great narraccisit. I am getting tired and I am wondering if I want to stay but I have no way of taking care of myself. I haven’t given up completely that is why im here. I need help. To love my enemy because I was never thought the love of my life was a dark hidden soul.i found out I was only18 25 years later I don’t know him and I never got to be a me.i realize now just how controlled I was. The other week he said we didn’t c have money so I was eating beans and one meal again het I noticed he was buying Christmas gifts taking our girls out to eat my daughter neeed money for school one night so I took a risk he had over 100 dollars in his wallet and I am not the type to mispend usually if he has had money before one year he was sexting so much he took my 3000 dollar birthday check and used it on a two month bill then switched the blame on me and said he used that money to pay a bill he will lie to hurt other people he force you to lie about yourself and others. And he keep you from telling the truth on him there this is a second of twenty years of this. Two sided man I love to hate whom I used to just love but it was all a lie.i was tricked. By his whole family. What will I do. If I do the same thing. Isn’t that insanity. So I am trying something totally different. I am venting I am letting it go. I am setting it free. I am going learn better

  • anyomous

    Oh and recently he and another guy was changing a female coworkers tire at her work. Then. Next thing I know he drove her to a coop I knew that. Here’s where it gets ugly. He calls me to go to breakfast which he never done before I was dying my hair so I said no. So he said I am going to breakfast. I say or . Well I hear no one but him very quiet to quite. Then he stands in line to eat calls me they would joke at my work and say your husband here. That day she was like hey call me back later. So I did found out he took that female coworker out to eat. He had plenty chances to tell me. But no my coworker did I was like I didn’t know. Then to make it worse he drove her home without telling me but then I called him and he made the other girl say thank you and she was acting and sounding weird and it took him a long time to get home from her house. All the lies living out details all my coworkers thought he was cheating he was so smug he was like if I was cheating I would have went to another restaurant I said not you because you really believe think you want do that

  • a inzo

    There is no God or Satan. God would not have taken my father in his prime or helped my wife ruin our marriage.

  • only me!

    What do you do when you’re married to a narcisist?

    • Dima

      Exactly. I am married to one and he’s done all of the above! But he sent me this link to tell me (without speaking) that I am at fault for all the above.

    • Rico

      Yea what do you do

    • David

      I’m sorry that no one bothered to answer your question before now. Unfortunately, a lot of Christians are neglecting their jobs. You must bring in members of the church, your pastor, trusted Godly friends, and have them counsel and pray for your spouse. If they will not listen to counsel then you must treat them as an unbeliever and you must do battle in prayer. The enemy has your spouse in his clutches. 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 says
      12 To the rest I say that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

      You have a battle to wage for The Lord. This is not a personality problem, or a mental illness problem, this is a lack of GOD problem. Read through Psalms and find some prayers that fit to your situation. Psalms 118 and 119 have some very good prayers to the Lord for enduring trouble and praying for salvation for those who give you trouble.

      In the Name of our LORD GOD ELOHIM, I ask that HE give you blessings and perseverance. May HIS peace be with you.

  • Danyelle

    This sad only if I would been praying for my husband long time ago. I would paid attention to the sign in my marriage . These are the thing we are going through now . We are seperated now. I would argued less. Prayed more. I just did not know .. I was fighting Satan..

    • Kim robinson

      It is ok i know i am only 25 but my fiance always says I’m to churchy because he wants me to go outside of my comfort zone and try new things with other people we have been together for 8 years but for me i pray to god for support on my decisions i have to keep faith and respect myself and letting him talk me into new things like 3 somes of partner swap just feels dirty and wrong and makes me think it is the devil he says it is not the devil but i feel it is what is your opinion do u think i am wrong for not complying with my fiance wants or needs

      • Tiffany B

        You are the one who’s doing “right”. His foolishness is the enemy’s grasp on him, without a doubt. That’s not marriage material in my opinion & I say this because I married someone like that & it’s a difficult marriage that I’m fighting like a mad woman to try & save. God has truly helped me & I’m grateful, but I do think of how I could have chosen a man with beliefs more like my own. Everything happens for a reason & I can’t deny I needed growth too, but you seem to have the thought process I wish I would have had in my twenties. God has a plan for your life & you might consider leaving your guy in the past for a man who deserves what you have to offer & respects you more as a person. May God bless you with the wisdom you need to lead your life with joy & rewards in the Eternal Kingdom.

  • broken

    What do u do when a couple marries that has already has kids from previous relationship and the kids fight over the smallest and stupidest things and nonstop and it pulls ur marriage apart you love ur husband so much and he loves you we only fight over the kids how do you fix it

  • Bob Jennings

    Are there 10 ways satan hates to see marriages fall apart?

  • Denise

    When the Pastor cheats on his wife and refuses intimacy/sex, what should the wife/First Lady do? As this is another trick of Santan

  • Mia

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  • Tanya Young

    my husband kept on cheating on me..at first he was forgiven because i believe in second chances but still he cheats again with another woman I’ve been married for twelve years and my husband has been cheating . i told my pastor about it we prayed and fasted nothing happen. We have three children together who are still very young. My husband does not cheat with one woman, but many. Recently, for my birthday my husband left the house and never came back home the phone was dead i was frustrated i cried i prayed my Pastor told me everything will be fine, at night i was checking my mails i saw a comment online where a lady was testifying on how her husband was brought back by a spiritual doctor i contacted through the mail he responded immediately i told him my situation he told me 24 hour was all he needed to fix my situation it was like a joke, 6hours later my husband called me apologizing on the phone, that was how my husband came back home after two months separation my husband came back, his love became stronger than ever if your relationship is seeking please Dr Moosa has the answer. his mail is moosatemple@yahoo.com.