Have you ever noticed that when people debate about counseling it doesn’t always sound like they’re talking about the same thing? While it’s easy for all of us to fall in the trap of having different conversations about the same subject, this is particularly true when we are discussing a word with as many meanings as the word “counseling.” Continue reading
Once you get to the intervention, the only surprises should be whether your friend shows up and how he or she responds at the end. If you prepare well, everything in the middle should be well established. Here are some suggestions for the intervention. Continue reading
This post is meant to help you take this step strategically rather than desperately.
Sometimes we are prone to think that interventions are a modern invention, but intentional, tough love conversations in the context of people who know the spiraling individual best have always been part of God’s design. Continue reading
The recognition that there are healthy and unhealthy forms of repentance is both common sense and biblical (2 Corinthians 7:8-13). On this everyone agrees; secular and sacred. The difficulty is in discerning disingenuous repentance. Mature and discerning people can witness the same conversation and walk away with distinctly different impressions about whether a given expression of remorse represents genuine repentance, sorrow for being caught, or a tactic to gain relational leverage.
In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration. Continue reading
Marriage can be one of God’s greatest earthly blessings. But statistics and the Bible both indicate that living together before marriage decreases the quality and longevity of marriage. Continue reading
Too often we treat compatibility as it were a noun (something two people share – like a cupcake or eye color) instead of a verb (something two people do – like synchronized swimming or conversing). There is a big, often overlooked, difference between compatibility as a noun and as a verb. Continue reading
In this post, Brad Hambrick continues with more compelling suggestions for thinking through the possible role of psychiatric medicines in addressing various types of mental suffering. Continue reading
In this post and the next, Brad Hambrick offers compelling suggestions for thinking through the possible role of psychiatric medicines in dealing with various forms of mental suffering. This post is written to a person who is considering the possibility of taking medication. Continue reading
I’ve never been mistaken for a comedian. I like humor and I try to be funny, but that’s just it… I try. Most of my jokes are very dry and when people eventually get them they moan more than laugh. All of that is to say, I am venturing off of my “home turf” with this analogy.
I believe there is a common mistake that is made by both young comedians and young counselors – they jump to the point/ punch line too quickly. Continue reading
On Monday we began Brad Hambrick’s “open letter” to someone in the midst of an affair. In the first part of the letter, Brad stressed that the adulterer must make some decision about which intimate relationship will be pursued whole-heartedly. Ultimately, the best decision will be the one that honors God. Continue reading
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Biblical Counseling Coalition
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