How to Conduct an Effective Intervention (Part 1)

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

This post is meant to help you take this step strategically rather than desperately.

Sometimes we are prone to think that interventions are a modern invention, but intentional, tough love conversations in the context of people who know the spiraling individual best have always been part of God’s design. Continue reading

Manipulative Repentance

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

The recognition that there are healthy and unhealthy forms of repentance is both common sense and biblical (2 Corinthians 7:8-13). On this everyone agrees; secular and sacred. The difficulty is in discerning disingenuous repentance. Mature and discerning people can witness the same conversation and walk away with distinctly different impressions about whether a given expression of remorse represents genuine repentance, sorrow for being caught, or a tactic to gain relational leverage.

In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration. Continue reading

The Limitations of “Compatibility” for Marriage

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

Too often we treat compatibility as it were a noun (something two people share – like a cupcake or eye color) instead of a verb (something two people do – like synchronized swimming or conversing). There is a big, often overlooked, difference between compatibility as a noun and as a verb. Continue reading

On Counseling and Comedy

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

I’ve never been mistaken for a comedian. I like humor and I try to be funny, but that’s just it… I try. Most of my jokes are very dry and when people eventually get them they moan more than laugh. All of that is to say, I am venturing off of my “home turf” with this analogy.

I believe there is a common mistake that is made by both young comedians and young counselors – they jump to the point/ punch line too quickly. Continue reading

An Open Letter to Someone Having an Affair (Part 2)

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

On Monday we began Brad Hambrick’s “open letter” to someone in the midst of an affair. In the first part of the letter, Brad stressed that the adulterer must make some decision about which intimate relationship will be pursued whole-heartedly. Ultimately, the best decision will be the one that honors God. Continue reading

An Open Letter to Someone Having an Affair

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

In the blogs for today and Wednesday, we have an opportunity to read an imaginary response to a person who is involved in adultery and yet struggles with what choices to make about both intimate relationships. With his usual sensitivity and tactic, Brad Hambrick gently challenges the adulterer to consider the realities of being stuck between a marital “rock” and adulterous “hard place.” Continue reading