Are We There For Them?

Judy Dabler

Developing apprentices and journeymen in the field of biblical counseling is not only a great opportunity to advance God’s Kingdom, but a responsibility that older and more experienced counselors have toward the younger generation. Sadly, many experienced and gifted biblical counselors do not embrace the opportunity to bless and be blessed through mentoring their young and eager colleagues. Because the art of biblical counseling cannot be easily taught, but is readily “caught” through mentoring, master counselors are being invited to embrace this important ministry of mentoring. Continue reading

Avoiding Assumicide

Judy Dabler

Developing intimacy in marriage requires effort. Making assumptions of one another, without first testing assumptions with questions, damages marital closeness. A commitment to keep working to learn intimacy building skills while remaining open to one’s spouse requires trusting God. Continue reading

Lamentable Confessions

Judy Dabler

Confessions are usually healing for both the offended and the offender. Most of the time, confessions are heartfelt expressions of the repentance that God has granted. A healing confession is redemptive in that it has the power to “buy back” … Continue reading

After Relationships Shatter

Judy Dabler

Some conflicts are so egregious, believers can actually find reconciliation and forgiveness a distasteful calling. When a professing believer has left a community and caused a great deal of harm and has lived unrepentant for a long time, his repentance and return is often met with anything but a joyful heart. Yet, Scripture guides the church in how to respond in this type of difficult situation. Continue reading

The “Frangible” Heart

Judy Dabler

Conflict Resolution Series--The Frangible Heart

The injuries experienced in conflict are very real. Apart from faith, these injuries can prove “lethal” as relationships become permanently damaged and destroyed. Yet, faith produces the ability to face conflict-related wounds in a way that enables the believer to powerfully proclaim the gospel to the world. Continue reading

The Discipline of the Lord

Judy Dabler

Conflict Resolution and Church Restoration--The Discipline of the Lord

As we think through conflicts in the church, believers are not left without comfort. We are reminded that we should view hardship as discipline, and discipline comes to those that God loves. Continue reading

The Man Behind the Curtain

Judy Dabler

The Man Behind the Curtain

At a time when the news and the blogosphere is filled with painful stories of church conflict, believers are not left without clear direction from Scripture. A God-honoring response will always be a loving one. Continue reading

Leave Room

Judy Dabler

Leave Room

The most beautiful thing I have ever witnessed is reconciliation between two hurting sinners. I am passionate about seeing broken relationships healed. But, what do we do with that broken relationship that haunts us? Is it ever okay to give up pursuing reconciliation with another person? Continue reading