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Author Archives: Deepak Reju

Deepak serves as the Pastor of Biblical Counseling and Families at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, DC. Deepak does individual and couples counseling, leads groups, develops the vision for the counseling ministry, and supervises the counseling team. He did his theological training at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (M.Div., PhD). Deepak and his wife, Sarah, have been married for ten years and have four children.

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Don’t Get An Emotional Divorce Before You are Married: Dating Mistakes

You are dating, and you really like each other a lot. You’re having a lot of fun. And you talk virtually every day. Most couples, even in the early stages of dating, will open up their lives, and start sharing a lot about themselves. You’re vulnerable early on, and you emotionally give yourselves to each other. Here is my warning: deep emotional intimacy should not be established in the early stages of a relationship. Continue reading

Topics: BCC Exclusive, Dating, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital | Tags: ,

13 Wisdom Principles When Ending a Dating Relationship: How to Break Up to the Glory of God

If the gospel really makes a difference in our lives, it should show itself in the worst of moments. But if Christian dating looks no different than the world then our faith shows itself to be relatively useless. What would it mean to break up for the glory of God? Seriously. How do you end the relationship in a way that is God-honoring and honoring of the other person, especially since he or she is a brother or sister in Christ? Here are 13 wisdom principles to remember. Continue reading

Topics: Conflict, Dating, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital | Tags: , , , ,

Christian Identity: Who Are You?

On weekends we like to highlight for you one of our growing list of free resources. This weekend we highlight part one of a two-part audio by Deepak Reju. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Self-Esteem/Self-Image, Theology | Tags: , , ,

Easter Bunnies, Parental Feelings of Failure, and the Resurrection of Jesus Christ

Don’t give up. Every Easter, I’m reminded of this fact: Because Christ rose again, I have life. I’m no longer a slave to my sin. Christ has risen; you now have life through Him. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Parenting, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Sin | Tags: , , , , ,

Dumb Down Your Smart Phone

There was a time when porn was primarily a problem for desk-tops or laptops, but over the last few years, technology has expanded to a host of different mobile formats—ipods, smart-phones, tablets… So, if you are helping someone fight a porn problem, you’ve got to ask about all of their devices. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Discipleship, Humility, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Pornography, Sexual Purity | Tags: , , , ,

Dating Games: 10 Worldly Things that Singles Do When Dating

Look at the typical evangelical church and you will find singles dating one another. Stop and look closely for a moment. Many of their dating habits are patterned after worldly thinking. The devil is probably laughing at us. He really doesn’t have to do anything to stir up a mess in evangelical dating culture. We’ve created our own mess by thinking more like the world rather than distinctly as Christians. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Dating, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital, Singleness | Tags: , , ,

Why Do I Hate Myself: Motivations for the Dreadful Habit of Cutting

What motivates cutting and self-harm and how does Christ’s gospel of grace bring relief and release from the desires to self-harm? Continue reading

Topics: Addictions, Cutting and Self-Harm, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Self-Esteem/Self-Image, Stress | Tags: , , , , ,

Fighting Porn in the Local Church

An epidemic has broken out among our generation. Pornography is ravaging the church, much like a spark that turns into a blazing forest fire. We have a huge problem on our hands. Many pastors are overwhelmed with everything it takes to shepherd a church, so they can’t possibly be expected to also handle this problem without help. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Local Church Ministry, Pastoral Resources, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Pornography, Sexual Purity | Tags: , , ,

Journey to Biblical Counseling: Paul Tautges Interviews Deepak Reju

Pastor Paul Tautges at his Counseling One Another blog site has launched another excellent series. It’s called Journey to Biblical Counseling and in it he interviews various teachers, trainers, authors, and leaders in the biblical counseling world. Today he interviews the BCC’s Board President, Deepak Reju. Continue reading

Topics: Biblical Counseling, Equipping, Local Church Ministry, Pastoral Resources, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , , , ,

Shame on Top of Shame: Why Pornography and Masturbation Are Not Just a Man’s Problem

One reason why it is so difficult for women to admit struggles with pornography and masturbation is that it’s thought about, talked about, written about as a man’s sin. Supposedly women’ don’t struggle with sexual sin in the same way that men do. But that’s just downright false. Continue reading

Topics: People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Pornography, Sexual Purity, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , ,

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