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Category Archives: Adultery

Weekend Media Resource: When a Husband Is Discovered Looking at Pornography

This is an audio recording of a conversation between David Powlison, Deepak Reju, and Garrett Higbee about how a counselor might help a couple when the husband has just been discovered in a struggle with pornography. All three men share their various perspectives on how to understand the problem as well as the way forward. Continue reading

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Ensnared by Lust

I grew up hearing that that women do not enjoy looking at naked bodies the way men do. Yet, women are being seduced into the world of pornography. Young and old, Christian and non-Christian, married and single, women are viewing pornography in record numbers. Continue reading

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Why Does He Look at Pornography?

One problem that biblical counselors will surely face in their counseling and everyday conversations, regardless of gender, is the addiction and enslavement to pornography. With a problem so prevalent and pervasive in the church, numerous books and articles have been written on the topic. How can biblical counselors contribute to this conversation? Continue reading

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BCC Weekend Resource: Biblical Counseling for Adultery

This weekend, we want to highlight Tim Lane’s new blog site. Additionally, we want to point you to a very helpful and insightful series that Tim just completed on his site regarding Biblical Counseling and Adultery. You can find links to each of Tim’s seven-part series below. Continue reading

Topics: Adultery, Anger, Conflict, Grief/Loss, Men/Husbands, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , , ,

Adultery and Counseling in the Local Church

There is probably not a heartache and counseling scenario that you dread hearing more than that of adultery and marital infidelity. The initial shock of revelation, the subsequent stages of grief, disbelief, surprise, and anger coupled with the continuing on of day-to-day life presents what humanly appears to be a nearly impossible situation. What is the role of the local church, and specifically the role of counselors in the church to help in such a situation? Is the church a place and a people where the adulterer and victim of adultery can find hope and healing for their marriage? Continue reading

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BCC Weekend Media Resource: Brad Hambrick on Overcoming Sexual Sin

During weekends we often highlight one of our free resources. This weekend we highlight a nine-part video series by Brad Hambrick on Overcoming Sexual Sin. Continue reading

Topics: Adultery, Men/Husbands, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Pornography, Sexual Purity, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , ,

Why Did He Marry Me?

Shannon is a biblical counselor at Valley Center Community Church in Southern California. She has a Master of Arts in Biblical Counseling from The Master’s College in Santa Clarita, CA and is NANC certified. She is a retreat and conference speaker, author, and guest lecturer at The Master’s College. Shannon is currently pursuing future candidacy for the Ph.D. program in Biblical Counseling at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Continue reading

Topics: Adultery, Audience, Homosexuality, Men/Husbands, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Women/Wives | Tags: , ,

I Messed Up: Confessing Sin to Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Before You Get Engaged

If you are dating someone right now, are you scared to tell him or her about your sinful past? Whether you’ve struggled with difficult sins from the past, or you are still struggling with significant sins right now, it’s important to talk to your future spouse about these things. Continue reading

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How to Confess the Sin of Pornography to Your Wife (And How Not To), Part 2

At this point, having confessed his sin of pornography, a husband should ask the wife to forgive him. She might respond in a few different ways. Continue reading

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How to Confess the Sin of Pornography to Your Wife (And How Not To), Part 1

The only thing worse than the unsettled disgust after falling to porn is the even more haunting thought of your wife finding out. The tears, the anger, the shattered respect—they’re too much to think of. So often men don’t think of it. They promise God to do better, resolving to keep it between them. After all, “against you and you only have I sinned,” right? Not exactly. David’s statement in Psalm 51:4 functions to magnify the rightness of God’s judgment against him, not to lessen his guilt before others. David’s sin had terrible consequences for others—Uriah, Bathsheba, his wives (!), his children, his nation. But porn is victimless, right? Why don’t you ask your wife? Continue reading

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