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Category Archives: Relationships

Ten Simple (But Critical) Questions to Consider in Marriage Counseling

On weekends we like to highlight for you one of our growing list of free resources. This weekend we highlight a resource article by Dr. Jeremy Lelek in which he discusses Ten Simple (But Critical) Questions to Consider in Marriage Counseling. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Conflict, Men/Husbands, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Women/Wives | Tags: ,

Good News for Single Men

Last night I had a conversation with a handful of single men from our Soma Tacoma family. As a shepherd and elder who cares deeply for the hearts of people, I’d like to speak directly to other single men about a few of the takeaways from our two-plus-hour dialogue. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Discipleship, Men/Husbands, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Singleness | Tags: , , , ,

The Man Behind the Curtain

At a time when the news and the blogosphere is filled with painful stories of church conflict, believers are not left without clear direction from Scripture. A God-honoring response will always be a loving one. Continue reading

Topics: Biblical Counseling, Conflict, Local Church Ministry, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , , ,

Leave Room

The most beautiful thing I have ever witnessed is reconciliation between two hurting sinners. I am passionate about seeing broken relationships healed. But, what do we do with that broken relationship that haunts us? Is it ever okay to give up pursuing reconciliation with another person? Continue reading

Topics: Anger, Bitterness, Christian Living, Conflict, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , ,

Picture Perfect: The Remedy (Part 3)

A life ruled by our own desires and shaped by what the world tells us is perfection eventually becomes an exhausting life full of disappointment and frustration. In contrast, how radically different it is when the one true Lord rules our lives. When the true Lord rules our lives, we find that his rule is very different. In Matthew 11:28-30, this ruler invites you to come to him and have rest. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Conflict, Faith, Fear/Worry, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , , ,

Picture Perfect: The Root (Part 2)

We’ve got to start asking questions, “What do I mean by perfect or right? Why do I want these things done perfectly? What makes perfection important to me? Where does God fit into all of this?” These won’t necessarily be easy questions to answer. Uncovering desires can often be difficult. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Conflict, Fear/Worry, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Stress | Tags: , , , ,

Picture Perfect: The Problem (Part 1)

What creates the frustration and unhappiness that comes with perfectionism is what lies under the surface and drives these behaviors—the motives, beliefs, desires, fears, anxieties, and goals that live in and rule the heart and mind. These beliefs and desires interfere with loving relationships with God and others. Happily, our beloved Savior offers to rescue us from these passions that create so much tension in our lives, and offers us instead joy and peace that are given in such abundance that they overflow. Continue reading

Topics: Anger, Christian Living, Conflict, Forgiveness, Patience, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , , , ,

Must We Argue Again?

So why does anyone keep arguing when we know it is wrong, and it is counter-productive? Titus 3 begins with a discussion about authorities and respect for them, about being peaceable, gentle, humble instead of hateful, self-centered. Is it not our selfish desires that become the dictators, telling us what to argue for and to keep going until we get what we want? Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Conflict, Friendships, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , ,

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

God gives the gift of friendships. The gospel is the power of God that transforms our relationships into gospel-centered friendships. Christians are to glorify God as we connect with others. We are to demonstrate grace, mercy, compassion, love and forgiveness in relationships. Friendships must be cultivated by being saturated with the gospel of Jesus Christ. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Friendships, Gospel-Centered Ministry, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , ,

How to Do a Biblical Intervention, Part 1: Preparation to Intervene

Addiction counselors will do much of their work with family members and friends of the “addict.” One of the key helps a counselor can offer is to be a peace-maker (Matthew 5:9) by offering to do an intervention with the family and their addicted loved one (Matthew 18:15-18). Continue reading

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The BCC exists to strengthen churches, para-church organizations, and educational institutions by promoting excellence and unity in biblical counseling as a means to accomplish compassionate outreach and effective discipleship.