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Category Archives: Relationships

Don’t Get An Emotional Divorce Before You are Married: Dating Mistakes

You are dating, and you really like each other a lot. You’re having a lot of fun. And you talk virtually every day. Most couples, even in the early stages of dating, will open up their lives, and start sharing a lot about themselves. You’re vulnerable early on, and you emotionally give yourselves to each other. Here is my warning: deep emotional intimacy should not be established in the early stages of a relationship. Continue reading

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2 Reconciliation Primers

Reconciliation is one of the major themes of the New Testament and one of the most common counseling issues. Here are two reflections on reconciliation from two New Testament passages and some questions that could be used in a counseling session or as a homework assignment. Continue reading

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How to Relate Truth to Life: Connecting Ancient Texts with Modern People

Some of the hardest work of counseling and preaching is helping people see how God’s word addresses them without their self-justifications kicking in. In 1 Peter 4:15, Peter demonstrates a method or model we can follow in our ministry of the Word. Continue reading

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What Is “Tough Love”? Part 2

You’re reading Part 2 of a two-part post by Dr. Mark Shaw on Tough Love. In Part 1, Dr. Shaw contrasted the world’s definition of “tough love” with the Word’s definition. Today in Part 2, Dr. Shaw explores the role of “tough love” in biblical counseling. Continue reading

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What Is “Tough Love”? Part 1

You’re reading Part 1 of a two-part post by Dr. Mark Shaw on Tough Love. In Part 1, Dr. Shaw contrasts the world’s definition of “tough love” with the Word’s definition. Continue reading

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Marriage Is Death

I love my spouse; I’m just not ‘in-love’ with him/her anymore.” This is a statement I have heard pronounced in the counseling room many times by couples. Both women and men have said it. It is usually said in the context of a marriage counseling session scheduled because the couple has reached a crisis state, and in many cases, the one saying it is also declaring their desire to leave the relationship. Continue reading

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Overcoming a Critical Spirit

If we are honest, most of us have uttered words that were not edifying. Due to our sin nature, it is a battle to fight against a critical spirit. For some of us, it has become a life-dominating sin which is spiritually damaging. The hope is that a critical spirit can be overcome when we stop feeding our flesh and begin to feed our spirits in Jesus Christ. Continue reading

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4 Principles Related to Gossip and Prayer Requests

“How do we keep gossip out of our prayer ministries?” is the most frequently asked question I have received since I began teaching on resisting gossip. Continue reading

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Leadership Styles and the Heart of Conflict

How does leadership style make things either more conducive to conflict or a healthier atmosphere of conflict resolution? Does the biblical theme of the heart connect in any way to our leadership style and personality? Let’s learn how practicing the characteristics and demeanor of a shepherd is a biblical corrective to out of balance leadership styles. Continue reading

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13 Wisdom Principles When Ending a Dating Relationship: How to Break Up to the Glory of God

If the gospel really makes a difference in our lives, it should show itself in the worst of moments. But if Christian dating looks no different than the world then our faith shows itself to be relatively useless. What would it mean to break up for the glory of God? Seriously. How do you end the relationship in a way that is God-honoring and honoring of the other person, especially since he or she is a brother or sister in Christ? Here are 13 wisdom principles to remember. Continue reading

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