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Category Archives: Friendships

Do You Keep Your Commitments – Even When It Hurts?

The righteous man “swears to his own hurt and does not change,” according to Psalm 15:4. A dear mentor first made me aware of this verse when I was a new believer. My friend, who was a great influence in my life, taught me that times will come when one might regret making a commitment, but that it is necessary to keep one’s word. In other words, “let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’” (James 5:1; Matthew 5:37). Continue reading

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Prescribing Hospitality for Growth in the Christian Life

As biblical counselors, we’re always looking to suggest practical ways of living out what we believe. How often have you heard from friends and counselees that they know what the Bible says, but are unsure what to do or how to connect doctrine with their struggles? Continue reading

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5 Practical Ways to Help Your Counselees Find Friendships

Here are five practical ways we encourage counselees to find and form Christ-centered friendships. Continue reading

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Why Is Friendship So Hard?

Since the publication of The Company We Keep (TCWK), it’s been encouraging to see more being written on the topic of friendship here at the BCC. One of the ongoing questions I’ve received since writing TCWK is in regards to the difficulty of forming friendships in the church. Continue reading

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Weekend Resource: Relationally Wise Pastoral Care

Do you want to build stronger relationships? Become a more valued influence in the lives of those you love and shepherd? Be able to navigate the uncomfortable tensions and inevitable conflicts that often occur in pastoral care? In short, would you like to become more skilful in your relationships? If you’re like me, the answer is a clear and unambiguous “Yes!” But while I know I need more godly skill (wisdom) in all my relationships, it’s often quite hard to translate that desire into real-life relational skills. How do I actually become a wiser counselor, a wiser pastor, and a wiser friend? Continue reading

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How to Pursue Friendships through Hardships

Here are some biblical principles to guide our hearts as we navigate the waters of friendship when it’s hard to do so. Continue reading

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Must We Argue Again?

So why does anyone keep arguing when we know it is wrong, and it is counter-productive? Titus 3 begins with a discussion about authorities and respect for them, about being peaceable, gentle, humble instead of hateful, self-centered. Is it not our selfish desires that become the dictators, telling us what to argue for and to keep going until we get what we want? Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Conflict, Friendships, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , ,

Cultivating Gospel-Centered Friendships

God gives the gift of friendships. The gospel is the power of God that transforms our relationships into gospel-centered friendships. Christians are to glorify God as we connect with others. We are to demonstrate grace, mercy, compassion, love and forgiveness in relationships. Friendships must be cultivated by being saturated with the gospel of Jesus Christ. Continue reading

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The Seductive Lie of Immodesty, and Re-Claiming Your Identity in Christ

This is not another article on Matthew 5:28, hem lengths, or the horrors of uncovered shoulders. Today I’m writing more as the concerned mother of a teenage girl than as a biblical counselor. I want to take an unflinching look with young people of both sexes at the reality behind immodest dress; the desire to be desired; and where it can lead. Continue reading

Topics: Approval-Seeking, Dating, Friendships, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Self-Control, Self-Esteem/Self-Image, Sexual Purity, Teens, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , , ,

Toy Story, Proverbs and Friendship

The Proverbs are a great place to start for learning about friendship. They provide a rich portrait of biblical friendship. Over the balance of the book, four distinct qualities of biblical friendship come to the forefront: constancy, carefulness, candor, and counsel. Continue reading

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