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Category Archives: Premarital

13 Wisdom Principles When Ending a Dating Relationship: How to Break Up to the Glory of God

If the gospel really makes a difference in our lives, it should show itself in the worst of moments. But if Christian dating looks no different than the world then our faith shows itself to be relatively useless. What would it mean to break up for the glory of God? Seriously. How do you end the relationship in a way that is God-honoring and honoring of the other person, especially since he or she is a brother or sister in Christ? Here are 13 wisdom principles to remember. Continue reading

Topics: Conflict, Dating, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital | Tags: , , , ,

Dating Games: 10 Worldly Things that Singles Do When Dating

Look at the typical evangelical church and you will find singles dating one another. Stop and look closely for a moment. Many of their dating habits are patterned after worldly thinking. The devil is probably laughing at us. He really doesn’t have to do anything to stir up a mess in evangelical dating culture. We’ve created our own mess by thinking more like the world rather than distinctly as Christians. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Dating, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital, Singleness | Tags: , , ,

I Messed Up: Confessing Sin to Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Before You Get Engaged

If you are dating someone right now, are you scared to tell him or her about your sinful past? Whether you’ve struggled with difficult sins from the past, or you are still struggling with significant sins right now, it’s important to talk to your future spouse about these things. Continue reading

Topics: Adultery, Forgiveness, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Pornography, Premarital, Sexual Purity, Sin | Tags: , , , ,

The Bachelor Pastor

I have waited 44 years to write this. It is my last sermon as a single man. This coming Saturday I will marry the love of my life, Miss Jennifer Terrell. The unusual circumstances of my marriage give me an opportunity to say some important things. The first circumstance that makes my marriage atypical is my age. I am 44 years and 7 months old. If the national average age for a man’s first marriage is 28, this means I’ve had more time than average to think about these things. The second circumstance is my role in the church. I have been a pastor for 20 years and senior pastor here at Bethel for 15. My observation is that bachelor pastors are rarer than Packer fans at Soldier Field, and they are sometimes treated like them. They receive disparaging comments, questions of sexual orientation, and the like. Continue reading

Topics: Christian Living, Marriage & Family, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital, Temptation | Tags: , ,

4th Quarter Dating

I go to a church packed full of 20 and 30-year-olds. Consequently, our pastoral staff all-too-often answer the questions like, “Who should I marry?” “How will I know if he is the one?” “Can our relationship go the distance?” It’s … Continue reading

Topics: Biblical Counseling, Men/Husbands, Pastoral Resources, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Premarital, Women/Wives | Tags: , , , , ,

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