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Biblical Counseling and Community Outreach

Local Church Series - Biblical Counseling and Community Outreach

BCC Staff Note: You’re reading Part One in a multi-part series by the BCC’s Grace & Truth bloggers on Biblical Counseling in the Local Church. In addition to today’s post by Pastor Steve Viars, you will read future posts by Keri Seavey, Pastor Kevin Carson, Pastor Andrew Rogers, Pastor Jonathan Holmes, Eliza Jane Huie, and Pastor Deepak Reju.

Safe Haven

This past week a local family’s home was completely destroyed by a ravaging fire. The Red Cross immediately met with these displaced members of our community and began the process of helping them find temporary housing. Thankfully a new community asset was available—Safe Haven—recently completed to provide housing for victims of fire, flood, and domestic violence.

Safe Haven Ceremony 1What is especially amazing about this story is that Safe Haven’s construction costs were completely underwritten by a Japanese car manufacturing company in our town and built on the campus of Faith Church. In collaboration with our city’s mayor and dozens of local contractors and suppliers, officials from Subaru Indiana Automotive formally gave Faith the keys to Safe Haven in a recent ceremony and entrusted us to begin serving area victims at some of the most vulnerable times in their lives.

As I watched this story unfold, I was reminded of Paul’s words to the Ephesians:

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen” (Ephesians 3:20-21).

Orchestrated by God

Safe Haven Ceremony 2Only an Almighty God could lead a city’s mayor, the director of the Red Cross, and leaders from the local Japanese car plant to construct a home for disaster victims on a church’s property and then in their own words, “Hand Faith the keys and walk away.”

Oh, one more thing; I received word yesterday that the Red Cross wants to honor Faith at their upcoming annual meeting with their distinguished “Good Neighbor Award.” I chuckled as I thought about a community organization giving us an award for accepting an unbelievable gift from a local manufacturer orchestrated by the town’s mayor. Yea, God is that good.

Biblical Counseling—Blessing the Community

So humanly speaking, how did all of this come about, and why is this story on the BCC’s blog? It is because we have been trying for over 30 years now to use biblical counseling as a means of being a blessing to our town. We make between 50-75 hours of BC services available to hurting men and women from our community every week. We are not interested in being a political action committee or positioning ourselves as angry proponents of the religious right. We simply want to follow Jesus’ command to “Let your light shine among men in such a way that they may see your good works and glorify your God who is in heaven” (Matthew 5:16).

Over time these kinds of services start to make a difference in the community. The judges notice. The neighbors notice. The reporters notice. The educators notice. The social service providers notice. The manufacturers notice. The policemen notice.

And, of course, we don’t want them to notice us. We want them to notice the God of heaven and earth who offers hope and answers and love and grace to men and women suffering in a sin-cursed world.

Safe Haven Ceremony 3We are beyond fired up about the many ministry opportunities that will come our way as we serve these dear victims from our community. Meeting the trauma of domestic violence or the loss of one’s home with the compassion of Christ and the beauty of the gospel takes our breath away.

Our experience with community-based biblical counseling is that over time amazing things start to happen. Like a Japanese auto maker providing a community asset for a local church. All I can say is, “Yay, God. I love serving You.”

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How can your church’s biblical counseling ministry impact your community with Christ’s compassion?

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BCC Weekend Resource: The Development of Spiritually-Rooted Depression

The BCC Weekend Media Resource

BCC Staff Note: During weekends we often highlight one of our free resources. Many times those are media resources—video or audio. But we also have hundreds of written resources on Christian living, biblical counseling, and pastoral ministry. This weekend’s resource is an example of a written resource—this one by Sherry Allchin on The Development of Spiritually-Rooted Depression.

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Topics: Bitterness, Christian Living, Depression, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Sadness | Tags: , , ,

Friday’s 5 to Live By

Friday's Five To Live By 2012

Each Friday our BCC staff links you to the top five biblical counseling and Christian living blog posts of the week—posts that provide robust, rich, and relevant insights for living.

Grace Abounding

J.D. Greear has collated several powerful quotes in his post The Light of Grace First Shows Us the Wickedness of Our Hearts. Here’s a sampler:

“Christ is never fully valued, until sin is clearly seen. We must know the depth and malignity of our disease, in order to appreciate the great Physician.”~J. C. Ryle

What to Pay the Pastor?

Pastor Brian Croft addresses the question, and provides resources to answer the question: How Does a Church Decide What to Pay a Pastor? 

The Blessed Exchange

Justin Taylor quotes from a Puritan prayer in The Valley of Vision, in The Blessed Exchange. Here’s the beginning, but be sure to follow the link to read the end.

“Christ was all anguish that I might be all joy,
cast off that I might be brought in,
trodden down as an enemy that I might be welcomed as a friend,
surrendered to hell’s worst that I might attain heaven’s best…”

Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Brad Hambrick shares a video blog on How Can Counseling Help Survivors of Sexual Abuse? 

9 Types of Leaders in Scripture

Justin Holcomb explores 9 Types of Leaders in Scripture.

Join the Conversation

Which post impacted you the most? Why? What blog posts have you enjoyed this week that you want to share with others?

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8 Top Reasons to Become a BCC Partner

BCC Partner Program

The BCC has just launched the BCC Partner Program. It is a significant new way that you can partner with the BCC in accomplishing our mission of multiplying the ministry of the biblical counseling movement.

Our BCC Partner Program 8 Top Reasons… serves as a great way to introduce you to this new opportunity.

8 Top Reasons to Become a BCC Partner

  1. Unique Factor: The BCC is a unique hub where the best of the best intersect to provide the Body of Christ with excellent resources to equip you to promote personal change centered on the Person of Christ through the personal ministry of the Word.
  2. Targeted Audience: Our content and resources are targeted to meeting the needs and interests of our audience: pastors, lay counselors, students, professors, and hurting people seeking Christ’s grace and wisdom—those who give care, those who equip care-givers, and those in need of care.
  3. Receive Our Exclusive BCC Partner Only E-Source Connection Newsletter:  Our newsletter provides links to exclusive monthly content with rich resources and insight to aid you and your team in ministry. For example, the June Partners-only resource is a 36-page PDF on Biblical Counseling and Mental Illness co-authored by several leaders in the biblical counseling movement.
  4. Substantial Outreach/Digital Visibility: Equip and grow your personal ministry and/or your organization’s ministry as a listed member.
  5. The BCC Is a Trusted Organization: See the bios of our 56 BCC Board of Directors and Council Board Members to see the extent of the reach of the leadership of the BCC.
  6. Commitment to Scripture: Visit the BCC’s Confessional Statement to see our commitment to changing lives with Christ’s changeless truth. Visit our Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling Bookstore to learn more about our commitment to Scripture evidenced throughout our first collaboratively authored BCC book.
  7. Growing Together with Us: We love to talk about TON—Together Others Notice. Join us as we together we multiply the ministry of the biblical counseling movement nationally and internationally.
  8. Your Hub for Commitment to Biblical Counseling, Multi-Media Resources, and Digital Visibility: We are blessed to have so many leaders in the biblical counseling world who provide various types of counseling resources. Whether video, interview, audio, or blog, we have multiple ways to provide you, your church, and your ministry with edifying content.
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Six Disciplines of a Depressed Soul

Six Disciplines of a Depressed Soul

BCC Staff Note: You’re reading Part Four of a four-part BCC Grace & Truth blog mini-series on depression. In addition to today’s post by Paul Tautges, you can read Part One by Lilly Park: Depression and Imbalanced Approaches and Part Two by Pat Quinn: Depression, Catastrophizing, and Elijah, and Part Three by Sherry Allchin: Depression…Is It All in Your Mind?.

Spiritual Depression

Spiritual depression, or deep discouragement of the soul, has been part of the human experience since the fall in the Garden of Eden. Whether sin-related, suffering-responsive, or connected to a unique pattern on the fabric of our inner person (we are not all bubbly, crowd-loving people), depressive tendencies are real, and spiritual depression is a common struggle among God’s people.

If we have fallen prey to thinking that the hymn writer’s words were divinely inspired, “and now I am happy all the day,” and, as a result, concluded there must be something drastically wrong if ever we are the least bit sad, then a cursory reading of the book of Psalms will bring us back to the reality of life in a fallen world. Since depression is common in the human experience, we must know how to navigate through our “valley times” with the Lord. In order to fight for biblical joy—while at the same time working through depression—personal discipline is required in six critical areas.

Respect

“Respect” includes conscious consideration of God’s design for the orderliness of our life, bodily rest, and recreation. In other words, if God is mindful that “we are but dust” (Psalm 103:14), then it seems wise that we remember this as well. Relentless abuse of our minds and bodies through obsession with work—without cooperating with God’s design for Sabbath-like rest and recreation—will deplete our soul’s resources and dampen our joy.

We need to realize that we are made to live within a body, and world, which both have their limits. The person who shows little respect for his or her diet, exercise, sleep habits, work schedule, and financial obligations may very well battle depression from the burdens of an undisciplined life. Providential weights also impact us in more ways than we imagine, such as the 24/7 care of a special-needs child or aged parent.

Though less important than the pursuit of godliness, the proper care of our body is of some real profit (1 Timothy 4:8). If it’s been a long time since you had a complete physical with your medical doctor, including blood work, then that is an important step to take as you evaluate how your lack of respect for life’s limits may be affecting your spirit. Surely, all of these areas of life, and more, are included in what it means to walk in wisdom (Ephesians 5:15).

Repent

Depression may have a specific, rebellious, sin-cause (see Psalm 32, for example). When this is the case then surely we must repent.

But there is not always a sin-cause behind depression.

Somewhere along the line, regardless of the reason, biblical counselors gained an unfortunate reputation for running to a sin-cause as our default response to a fellow believer’s deep sadness. We need to learn from this erroneous conclusion without ignoring the biblical connection that sometimes exists between depression and sin.

When the sin-connection is true in our experience. then we must consciously and deliberately turn away from our rebellion and back to God for cleansing and renewal. Even if we are unaware of specific, unconfessed sin for which the Lord may be chastening us, the true Christian will pursue a lifestyle of spiritual health that includes ongoing repentance. He or she will regularly seek the Lord through prayer, asking “Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! (Psalm 139:23-24).

Replace

When the Holy Spirit employs the Word of God to reveal our need to repent, we must then replace our sin with righteousness. For example, one common sin-cause of depression is false thinking patterns that must be corrected. Unbiblical ways of thinking about God, or self, usually lead to misinterpretation of our circumstances and self-pitying responses to life’s troubles. Self-centered thinking patterns are often rooted in unbelief, which easily produce anxiety that overtakes the soul and kills our joy.

It is significant to notice that the apostle’s promise of indescribable peace, which comes as a result of thankful prayer (Philippians 4:6-7), is followed by a call to correct our thinking patterns by filling our mind with that which is true and honorable (v. 8). Usually false thinking patterns exist undetected in our lives for long periods of time. The Lord is gracious, therefore, to use even the trial of depression to reveal these patterns so that we may be transformed by the “renewal of our minds” (Romans 12:2).

Remain

By “remain,” I mean we need to abide in Christ by remaining in fellowship with God and His people through keeping the major spiritual disciplines: the Word, prayer, God’s people, and close friendship.

  • Remain in the Word. By doing so, the depressed soul speaks truth into his heart which is ideally set-up to easily believe its own lies. Scripture passages that I have found especially helpful include Psalms 77, 73, 42, and 55. Another precious, soul-feeding study is the comparison of the Shepherd of Psalm 23 with the Good Shepherd of John 10.
  • Remain in prayer. The depressed soul must choose to discipline himself to cast his cares upon the Lord, through prayer, while knowing and choosing to believe the Heavenly Father truly cares for him. Praying Psalms 42 and 43, for example, is one way to remain in communion with God when emotions are less than supportive. When your own resources are depleted don’t be ashamed to borrow from others. When necessary, pray their prayers. Feed off of their faith.
  • Remain in fellowship with God’s people. There is a way to receive encouragement from other believers without becoming a spiritual leech. Without apology the writer of Hebrews identifies one of the purposes of the fellowship of Christians as “encouraging one another” (Hebrews 10:35). Too often we forget that the word “encourage” means “to give courage.” The depressed soul lacks courage and, therefore, needs to get courage from other believers by remaining in fellowship with them. The believer who does not battle depressive tendencies should always be on the lookout for others who need their encouraging words and prayers.
  • Remain in friendship with faithful brothers or sisters in Christ. Those who battle spiritual depression must guard against their natural tendency toward isolation—even from friends. Though times of aloneness with God are necessary to the God-centered encouragement and feeding of the depressed soul, those times must not be divorced from intentional interaction with other believers whom they can trust. The friendship of David and Jonathan is perhaps the most treasured in the Bible. Their souls were knit together and they loved each other as they loved their own lives (1 Samuel 18:1; 20:17). Surely this friendship was a great source of help to David on his most depressed days. Every believer needs at least one refreshing Onesiphorus in his life (2 Timothy 1:16).

Remember

The depressed person must also discipline himself/herself to remember the Lord’s works of mercy, love, and grace. The psalmist exhorts us to “forget none of His benefits” (Psalm 103:2).

Most times we forget because we do not choose to remember. This has been true for me, personally. Recently, the Spirit led me to Psalm 103 for my own personal encouragement. It did not take long to discover no less than nineteen of the Lord’s benefits, which I must consciously choose to remember. When battling depressive tendencies we must choose to remember our past blessings and present gifts from God.

We must also remember who we are in Christ, which combats the “functional lies” that motivate us. Another helpful tool is to begin a “My God Is…” list. A sister in our church recently shared how this has helped her maintain Godward focus. As she compiles a growing list of the qualities of God she selects five per morning to meditate on for a brief time. I have taken her counsel to do the same and have reserved the last five pages of my current journal for my own list. Deliberately remembering God is a critical discipline for the depressed soul.

Review

Finally, the soul that fights depressive tendencies must continually review the truths about God that we know from His Word. The writer of Psalms 42 and 43 did this as he “talked to himself” instead of letting his “self” talk to him (see Lloyd-Jones on ‘Spiritual Depression’). For me, this means paging through my journal to review past entries that record God’s dealings with me in ‘valley times.’ This helps minister to my inner man and renew my mind by shifting my focus away from self.

Some days, I simply read back to myself journal pages containing lengthy Scripture passages that I once wrote out as my soul’s food for a particular day. One of the drawbacks of journaling is caving-in to the self-imposed pressure to write every single day, even when you really don’t have anything to say. Unless you have dreams of others one-day reading your “never-failed-to-miss-a-day” journal, take a day off every now and then to rethink old lessons. Let a past journal entry be your personal Ebenezer (1 Samuel 7:12). Review the times the Lord has helped you.

From my own personal experience, I must admit that the fog of spiritual depression does not lift on its own. It would be wonderful if it did. Instead, we must fight for our joy while working through depression by applying discipline in these six areas. As you follow these words of counsel, may the Lord strengthen you “with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy” (Colossians 1:11).

Join the Conversation

How could you apply the principles of respect, repent, replace, remain, remember, and review to your life when you are battling spiritual depression?

How could you apply the principles of respect, repent, replace, remain, remember, and review to your ministry when you are helping another person battling spiritual depression?

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Depression….Is It All in Your Mind?

Depression….Is It All in Your Mind

BCC Staff Note: You’re reading Part Three of a four-part BCC Grace & Truth blog mini-series on depression. In addition to today’s post by Sherry Allchin, you can read Part One by Lilly Park: Depression and Imbalanced Approaches and Part Two by Pat Quinn: Depression, Catastrophizing, and Elijah. And in Part Four, Pastor Paul Tautges will examine Disciplines of a Depressed Soul.

A Compassionate Approach

Is depression purely a physiological condition of hormones or chemicals out of balance, or is there a heart/mind connection, or do both play a role? The experts have disagreed, so how do we as biblical counselors help those who suffer from depression? How can we help without pushing them further down into the quagmire of despair and shame?

First, we must acknowledge that depression is real. Just read Psalms 32, 38, 102 to see that God gives voice to our deepest pain and hears our cries. The symptoms of depression affect both body and soul, and are enough to make a person deaf and mute, withdrawn and unproductive. Life turns inward and nothing but one’s pain matters at that moment. The depressed need empathy, not sympathy. Encouragement, not excuses. Help, not judgment.

A Comprehensive Approach

We are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God created us with both a body and a living soul. One without the other is an incomplete human experience. Heart, soul, spirit, mind, and conscience are all aspects of the inner person, the place where desires and emotions emanate. The body gives expression to those desires. To understand depression requires looking at both the body and the inner person and connecting the dots.

If the person has not recently had a thorough physical, that should be step one—to be sure a medical doctor has determined there is no disease (such as Parkinson’s or diabetes) causing the body to respond in depression.  I remember one woman we counseled that presented increasingly depressed and after several sessions, no obvious reason for her depression surfaced. We sent her to another doctor for a second opinion, and Dr. # 2 found a small tumor on her thyroid that he removed. In just a few weeks she bounced back into the office to report how good she felt again, depression all gone! Her issue was not spiritual and all the Bible studies in the world would not make her feel upbeat until the physical problem was corrected.

Exploring Spiritually-Rooted Dimensions of Depression

However, our experience is that much depression has a root in the spiritual dimension of a person’s life. Disappointment sets the stage for depression. No, it’s not sin to feel disappointed about something. But disappointment can lead to a sinful attitude when that desire is not processed through a heart that loves and desires to please God more than any temporal thing or achievement. When heart desires lead us back to God’s sovereignty over our life and submission to His plans for us, the disappointment and related trials lead us to growth and maturity (James 1:2-4).

If the person has responded to disappointment and difficult circumstances with anger toward God and others, then the downward spiral into depression begins. Discontentment with situations and often with God becomes evident as bitterness and complaining grow. Unless repentance and change occur at this stage, the downward spiral continues into despair where the person loses all hope and believes life will never be good again. The ultimate sinful solution is destruction through suicide or homicide, depending on whether the person focuses internally or externally.

Let me also say here that suicide is not always physical. One person may commit social suicide by leaving everyone and moving on to avoid the disappointing people, while another commits mental suicide with drugs and alcohol, zoning out of the disappointing circumstance. Spiritual suicide denies God, trying to erase Him from a disappointing life, and emotional suicide retreats inward to hopeless despair through a psychological diagnosis that debilitates life and normal function. At least these can all be reversed, whereas a successful physical suicide is permanent.

The downward spiral from disappointment to discontentment to despair to destruction can move very quickly in some, and more slowly in others, but this is a common pattern we observe with those who are depressed. When I show the chart, The Development of Spiritually-Rooted Depression, to my counselees, they typically recognize very quickly where they are at that moment and how they progressed to that point. We then begin to identify the belief system that allowed them to process the disappointments as they did, and to replace those wrong beliefs with a Biblical worldview that honors Christ.

I will often ask a depressed counselee to journal daily how they are feeling, and then to trace that back to what they were thinking about their life circumstances and how their behaviors corresponded to what they were thinking and feeling about the situations they faced. My goal is to help a depressed person who has evaluated their circumstances as too hard, or hopeless, or some other negative, to begin to see that negative evaluations produce negative behaviors, producing negative emotions!

Think about the Psalms…they are a kind of emotional journal, with the psalmist pouring out a heart of disappointment, fear, anger, depression, shame, loneliness or betrayal and expressing the pain that comes with wrong thinking or wrong actions or being sinned against. The focus is inward, on self as it relates to circumstances, and often exposes a wrong view of self, others, or God. But the Psalms have what I like to call a “But GOD!” verse that lifts our chins upward to see the true and living God Who is much bigger than our problems and circumstances. That can change everything in our thinking and actions!

Therefore, my goal in asking someone to journal (or even talk during a counseling session) is to help them see their own belief system about their problems and circumstances, and then help them compare that to what Scripture teaches about our God. As they begin to see God as He IS and to adjust their beliefs to embrace Truth, their actions begin to adjust, and in time their emotions can adjust, too. The depression that they once experienced because of believing their circumstances were hopeless and their God was impotent is replaced with trust in God and joy in the Lord, even if the disappointing circumstances continue and even if some trying emotions remain. Why? Because their new (biblical) interpretation of the circumstances sees God as bigger than any circumstance He could ever face!

Join the Conversation

As a biblical counselor, how do you address depression compassionately and comprehensively while exploring spiritually-rooted dimensions?

As you personally struggle with depression, how could exploring the development of spiritually-rooted depression help?

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Depression, Catastrophizing, and Elijah

Depression, Catastrophizing, and Elijah

BCC Staff Note: You’re reading Part Two of a four-part BCC Grace & Truth blog mini-series on depression. In addition to today’s post by Pat Quinn, you can read Part One by Lilly Park: Depression and Imbalanced Approaches. This series will also include Depression…Is It All in Your Mind? by Sherry Allchin, and Disciplines of a Depressed Soul by Pastor Paul Tautges.

Catastrophizing

Psychological research often links depression to catastrophizing. Dr. Bill Knauss writes in Psychology Today, “When ongoing, catastrophizing can be a prelude to depression.” And in whimsical fashion, Michael Rafferty writes in Esperanza, “In the Olympics of depression, catastrophizing is my best event.”

Depression we know about, but what exactly is catastrophizing? We could define it as a mental and emotional process of interpreting and responding to a negative event in such a way that you do any of these three things:

  • Exaggerate the magnitude and impact of the event
  • Feel overwhelmed and helpless
  • Predict a hopeless future

It’s easy to see the connection between this kind of thinking and depression. Examples might include, failing a test and believing you will flunk out of school, or falling into a besetting sin and believing you can never change. Michael Rafferty says “…in my brain, one mistake sets off a chain reaction that ends with my being destitute and alone and sleeping under a bridge.”

While there are several possible contributing factors for catastrophizing (past suffering, bad modeling, genetic makeup, etc.), as Christians we have to recognize that unbelief is often at the heart of it. When catastrophizing, we often believe ideas like:

  • “There is no good and powerful God in control of my life.”
  • “The weight of the world is on my shoulders.”
  • “God doesn’t love me and has completely abandoned me.”
  • “I simply can’t live without….”

A Biblical Example of Catastrophizing

In 1 Kings 19, we read the story of Elijah fleeing Jezebel after the contest with the prophets of Baal on Mt. Carmel. Elijah had shamed and killed the prophets of Baal and Jezebel had vowed to kill him. So, Elijah flees to Beersheba and, in his exhaustion, discouragement, and fear, asks God to take his life.  his is deep depression!

God gives him food and sleep and Elijah continues on to Mt. Horeb. When God asks him what he’s doing there, Elijah “catastrophizes” and says all the people of Israel have forsaken God, that only he is left faithful, and that he probably won’t live much longer—effectively destroying God’s purpose for Israel!

God graciously deals with Elijah, gives him some specific instructions, and finally informs him that actually there are 7,000 faithful people left in Israel and that He is completely in control of Israel’s (and Elijah’s) destiny. What can we learn about how God deals with us when we catastrophize?

  • Even godly people like Elijah catastrophize at times. We get overwhelmed and exaggerate what’s happening. Catastrophizing is not good, but it is understandable.
  • God fully understands the harrowing circumstances Elijah has just passed through. He is patient and gracious with him, tending to his physical needs, dialoguing with him, and reassuring him with the actual truth of the situation.
  • Some things that “bring us back to our senses” are:
    • Taking a break: Getting food and rest if we are exhausted and depleted.
    • Pouring out our hearts to God: Telling Him exactly how we see and feel about things—even if we’re exaggerating!
    • Listening to God’s perspective on things: His perspective is true reality and is always hopeful.

The “RRPL” Response to catastrophizing:

The “RRPL” (think “ripple”) response is a simple way of remembering four steps to fight catastrophizing and its connection to depression.  When I say “simple” I don’t mean “simplistic.” These steps are progressive and will take time and Spirit-empowered effort to grow into. Counselors can teach and have counselees practice these steps and then have them journal the process as homework.

1. Recognize: Signs of Catastrophizing Include:

  • Feeling overwhelmed, helpless, and hopeless about the future
  • A victim identity (not the same as being victimized)
  • A self-focused perspective
  • Exaggeration for effect (to get attention?)
  • Making godless statements

2. Refocus:

  • Use psalms to pour out your heart. These psalms include some catastrophizing language—but express it to God as an act of faith and worship: Psalms 6, 10, 12, 22, 25, 38, 42, 55, 77, 88.
  • Meditate on Romans 8: 31-39. Verse 35 includes every type of catastrophe imaginable and affirms that none of them can separate us from the love of God!

3. Pray:

  • Thank God for who He is and what He promises.
  • Confess any unbelief, self-focus, exaggeration, or dishonoring statements.
  • Ask God for the specific graces you need to interpret and respond in “faith working through love.

4. Love: In the security of God’s promises and power, speak and act in faith and love.

  • It’s fine to share with others how overwhelming and hard things are, but try to include the Lord’s promises in your statements—e.g. “This seems…but God says….”
  • Ask others to help you see circumstances more clearly. Ask them how they interpret things and how they see the Lord involved.
  • Ask, “How can I express my faith in God by serving someone right now?

The story of God’s wise and gracious care of Elijah reminds me of these words from a beloved hymn:

“Have we trials and temptations? Is there trouble anywhere?
We should never be discouraged: take it to the Lord in prayer!
Can we find a friend so faithful, who will all our sorrows share?
Jesus knows our every weakness—take it to the Lord in prayer.”

Join the Conversation

What false beliefs tempt you to exaggerate events and distrust God? How could you use the story of Elijah to encourage someone struggling with depression?

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Partner with the BCC: Our New BCC Partner Program Q&A

BCC Partner Program

The BCC has just launched the BCC Partner Program. It is a significant new way that you can partner with the BCC in accomplishing our mission of multiplying the ministry of the biblical counseling movement.

Our BCC Partner Program Q & A serves as a great way to introduce you to this new opportunity.

1. What is the new BCC Partner Program all about?

The BCC Partner Program is a unique new way to take part in the BCC and the biblical counseling movement. BCC Partners have the opportunity to show support of, benefit from, and participate in our mission of multiplying the ministry of the biblical counseling movement through collaborative relationships and robust resources.

2. Who is the BCC Partner Program for?

The BCC Partner Program is for individuals and organizations that are looking to expand their online footprint while helping to support the movement of biblical counseling simultaneously. BCC Partners have stated in writing that they are in agreement with the BCC Confessional Statement, Doctrinal Statement, and Mission/Vision Statement, and so join together in advancing the biblical counseling movement.

3. How is this program different from others?

The BCC’s Partner program is a high-octane combination of visibility, partnership, and collaboration. We believe that quality resources should be shared, especially as they help lay counselors, pastors, students, and teachers in promoting solid biblical counseling. The BCC Partner Program is the only one of its kind where partners gain the kind of targeted visibility they’re looking for while obtaining excellent biblical counseling resources from across our networks, thus better equipping you for ministry and growing awareness of the biblical counseling movement.

4. What are the benefits of becoming a BCC Individual or Organizational Partner? Here are the ABC’s:

  • Access to Exclusive Partner Resources: The opportunity for you and/or up to twenty members of your organization to sign up for the BCC Partner E-Source Connection, a BCC Partners-only email with exclusive BCC resources organized by category, along with other information designed to equip you to promote personal change centered on the Person of Christ through the personal ministry of the Word. Learn from some of the most well-known and trusted biblical counselors in the nation and world in this exclusive content. For example, the June Partners-only resource is a 36-page PDF on Biblical Counseling and Mental Illness co-authored by several leaders in the biblical counseling movement.
  • Branded Visibility: The opportunity to be listed on the BCC website in a listing of contact information of individuals and organizations who have BCC Partner Status. This is a high value-add for any individual or organization’s online presence and with our large and growing audience, the BCC website is a true hub of what’s going on in the world of biblical counseling.
  • Commitment to Biblical Counseling: The BBC is a trusted organization and resource in the world of biblical counseling. Being a BCC Partner is your personal chance or your organization’s chance to make a clear statement and add your voice to the growing movement in the world of biblical counseling. Being able to state on your website and marketing material that you are “A Partner of the BCC,” is your opportunity to stand together with us as we affirm the confessions, doctrine, and vision of the Biblical Counseling movement

5. What does it cost to become a BCC Partner?

  • Individuals: $30.00 (to be renewed annually as Partnership dues)
  • Organizations: $50.00 (to be renewed annually as Partnership dues)

6. How do I get started?

Topics: Biblical Counseling, Megaphone Post, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers | Tags: , , , ,

Depression and Imbalanced Approaches

Depression and Imbalanced Approaches

BCC Staff Note: You’re reading Part One of a four-part BCC Grace & Truth blog mini-series on depression. In addition to today’s post by Lilly Park, this series will include Depression, Catastrophizing, and Elijah by Pastor Pat Quinn; Depression…Is It All in Your Mind? by Sherry Allchin; and Disciplines of a Depressed Soul by Pastor Paul Tautges.

Where Do We Go?

You’re at your desk and you open the folder containing the counseling form for your appointment next week. At the top of page four, it states to check off relevant problems. The person you will meet with placed a check mark next to the following descriptions:

  • Diminished interest in all, or almost all, activities
  • Significant weight loss or weight gain
  • Insomnia or hypersomnia
  • Fatigue nearly every day
  • Recurrent thoughts of death

At the end of the form, the person states that depression is the reason for counseling.

Where do we as biblical counselors go from here?

First, we aim to be holistic in our approach. Is this person a Christian? Has this person seen a doctor? Are there relevant circumstances in the past or present? What about medications and side-effects? And so forth.

Maybe in the process of gathering data, we realize that grieving (or something else) is a more accurate description than depression. Once I met with a woman who had been married for almost 40 years. She became a widow two years before our meeting and up to that point she had believed depression was her problem. As we talked about her husband’s death, she finally allowed herself to grieve, which became a turning point in her life without him.

A Holistic, Comprehensive Approach

We also should keep in mind a holistic view of human nature. Christians wouldn’t support a reductionist view of human nature, yet sometimes our responses to depression would indicate otherwise. Do we focus on chemical imbalance and antidepressants more than anything else? It’s helpful to know the latest research, but it still does not change the Christian’s goal in life.

The temptation is to find an answer that will explain everything, but God doesn’t work that way. I would say that the issue of chemical imbalance is secondary to the doctrine of humanity—a biblical/theological anthropology. Why? Regardless of the latest scientific research or successful methodology, this person, sitting across from your desk, has been created in the image of God. Remembering this theology can prevent counselors from approaching depression in an imbalanced way.

Whether a person takes antidepressants or not, the Christian goal in life remains the same: to glorify God (despite how I feel).

Avoiding an Imbalanced Approach

A balanced approach means guarding against two extremes that result in oversimplifying or complicating the issue. Here are some examples of an imbalanced approach:

  • Overly focusing on suffering. We acknowledge depression to be an overwhelming struggle and respond with gentleness and love. At the same time, we are careful not to allow the struggles to eclipse the Christian’s obedience to God.
  • Overly focusing on the usage of antidepressants rather than the person’s response. More importantly, is this person trying to change and please God?
  • Overly focusing on the spiritual issues. Let me clarify. I am not saying that the gospel, prayer, and other spiritual disciplines are not important. They are! However, we unintentionally convey that we don’t “get it” or understand the problem when we talk mostly about God or the Bible without addressing practical changes, such as completing a long overdue task or making that difficult phone call. Another potential misperception is that we don’t believe their physical or emotional struggles to be “real” or important when we don’t adequately address them. Here are some helpful comments: “I believe you.” “It’s okay to cry.” “You don’t have to apologize.” “Is there anything else you want to share or talk about?”

Does knowing more about our bodies and struggles make it easier to glorify God? Maybe. It could provide relief, some answers. At times, it is helpful to know in order to make a wise decision. In the end, however, we are left with a decision as to whether we will allow pain and suffering to determine our response to God’s will: to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord (Colossians 1:10). What makes this possible? A stronger body? Good feelings? Maybe you are in a very difficult situation and it doesn’t look like changes will occur, but how will you take a small step in pleasing God today? Ultimately, it’s a choice. Our choice reflects our belief about God’s character and purposes.

Our health and emotions do affect us but are not more powerful than the work of the Holy Spirit in us. I do want to be sensitive about physical and emotional struggles and acknowledge their realities. But, again, do we allow those struggles to become an excuse?

I’ve met some people who struggle with depression and they live a defeated life. Their diagnosis and emotions are more powerful in their minds. They start attending church less, fellowshipping less. Life is too hard, they say.

Living by God’s Grace

Thankfully, following Christ is by God’s grace. Yes, we do our part by seeking God’s Word, praying, and fellowshipping, but everything is by God’s grace. When we are living obediently, it’s by God’s grace. When we attend church even though we don’t feel like it, it’s by God’s grace. When we fall, we stand up by God’s grace. Sometimes, we forget that God is at work in our lives through the Holy Spirit. Where is our confidence? Is it in our strength, health, or emotional well-being? Not until we place our confidence in God and His grace do we experience a lifting of our soul––a theme of the Psalms.

His grace is sufficient to live a godly life (2 Peter 1:3). A life without pain doesn’t make it easier to live a godly life, but, a godly life does make it easier to endure pain. As we minister to someone struggling with depression, may our goal not be merely alleviating pain because the Christian life is so much more.

Our message to those struggling with depression is that it is possible to live life to the fullest for those who know Christ as their Savior and Lord. We can assure them that their usefulness isn’t dependent on their health or abilities. Their greatest hindrance to living life fully has been victoriously won at the cross. Now, it’s a matter of living in light of this reality.

Join the Conversation

As a counselor, how do you seek to balance the physical and the spiritual (the whole person) when counseling someone struggling with depression?

As someone struggling with depression, how do you seek to respond to your struggle by balancing the physical and the spiritual (the whole person)?

Topics: Biblical Counseling, Depression, Grief/Loss, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Sadness | Tags: , , , ,

BCC Weekend Media Resource: Biblical Counseling, the Church, and Mental Illness

The BCC Weekend Media Resource

BCC Staff Note: We describe the BCC’s Grace & Truth blog as “Voices from the Biblical Counseling Community.” The modern biblical counseling movement spans a diverse spectrum of people and organizations committed to a view of people helping summarized by the Biblical Counseling Coalition’s Confessional Statement. It is with this diversity in mind that we have recently run a series of posts addressing the important issue of Biblical Counseling, the Church, and Mental Illness. Here are direct links to those recent posts.

Join the Conversation

What additional resources do you recommend on biblical counseling, the church, and mental illness?

Topics: Biblical Counseling, People in Need of Care, People Who Offer Care, People Who Train Caregivers, Psychology and Christianity | Tags: , , ,

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