Counseling the Resistant Teen

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

In order to be prepared to encounter a resistant teen, it is helpful to gather data from the parents before you begin meeting with the teen. It takes some digging into their history in order to get an overall view of the teens. Teens are often unreliable historians because of their limited perspective and resistance to counseling. Continue reading

Reflections on Doing International Biblical Counseling Training

Wayne Vanderwier

Wayne Vanderwier

It seems impossible to believe that Overseas Instruction in Counseling is already a little more than 10 years old. When, in the Fall of 2005, Susie and I began to envision a ministry that would train pastors around the world in biblical sufficiency-based soul care, we never could have imagined the ways God would open doors of opportunity and expand the ministry we began in June, 2006. Continue reading

Psalm 131 and New Year’s Resolutions

Lee Lewis

The beginning of each New Year often brings with it people being challenged to make resolutions about things in their lives that need changing. Over the years in the counseling and pastoral ministries I have been a part of, I have used the start of a new year to teach what God’s Word says about change. Psalm 131 is a great chapter in the Bible (with just 3 verses) to illustrate where true change comes from. Continue reading

Reminiscence Brings the Anticipation of Hope

Howard Eyrich

Howard Eyrich

Some twenty-three years ago we moved from a major city to a small town outside of Birmingham, Alabama, in mid-April. Earlier, just after the New Year, a young woman came to me for counseling. Through her tears she related how she no longer loved her husband and desired to divorce him. Overall her countenance projected a different story. In God’s providence she was the last case of the day, and so I was able to take some extra time to listen to her. After about forty-five minutes I asked if I could make several inquires. Still crying, she managed a “sure.” Continue reading

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Mark Shaw

Mark Shaw

You may have said (or heard someone say): “I made the mistake and prayed for patience this morning and got stuck in traffic for two hours today. I learned a very valuable lesson today: never pray for patience!” That’s often the way we think about patience, but what does the Bible say about patience and impatience? Continue reading

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Jonathan Holmes

One problem that biblical counselors will surely face in their counseling and everyday conversations, regardless of gender, is the addiction and enslavement to pornography. With a problem so prevalent and pervasive in the church, numerous books and articles have been written on the topic. How can biblical counselors contribute to this conversation? Continue reading

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Heath Lambert

Heath Lambert

Katherine is perplexed. She is passionate and full of conviction, and desires to speak truth into the lives of people she loves. She is not sure, however, that she understands how to do that in a way that is not harsh. She very humbly asked me what she could do to be able to speak honestly without sounding insensitive. Continue reading

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Mark Kelly

Depression often robs us of our hope. The temptation in thinking that we cannot be honest with God about our situation deepens this hopelessness. Proceeding in prayer using the psalmist’s example in Psalm 13 breathes new hope into our lives. Continue reading

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Brad Bigney

Brad Bigney

God created sex and sexuality as a wonderful gift that is to be given to our life partner… this gift bonds us together in a special and intimate way. It is something God meant for us to experience in relationship to another human being. When we use it individually, we have twisted something wonderful and there are some dangers that then enter in. Continue reading

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Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

If you are dating someone right now, are you scared to tell him or her about your sinful past? Whether you’ve struggled with difficult sins from the past, or you are still struggling with significant sins right now, it’s important to talk to your future spouse about these things. Continue reading