But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me (2 Corinthians 12:9).
There has been much conjecture about what specific weakness, what thorn in the flesh, Paul is referring to in this passage. Inner grief? Demons? A physical affliction? Continue reading
How do we talk about singleness in a way that honors God and values all stages of life? A person might be single, because of never marrying, being divorced, or being widowed. Sometimes the church and Christian colleges give the impression that marriage is the goal of life. This is disconcerting, because it could instill an idolatrous view of marriage and the perception that life is incomplete without a spouse. Continue reading
Imagine a friend comes to you because she is stressed that she might lose her job. Realizing that her anxiety is a result of her idols being threatened or harmed, you ask a few questions to try to discern the idolatry of her heart. Very quickly you conclude that she has made an idol of money. More than anything else, she is worried about what losing her job will mean to her finances. Money is the idol -> it is being threatened by a job loss -> she is stressed. Continue reading
When life hurts, we want to move away from it. A job that drains you of energy, time, and relationships hurts. The thought of the stress and long hours at work makes us just want to take sick days and stay in bed. A nagging sinful desire that will not go away hurts. We can easily become confused or frustrated with ourselves and with God. Continue reading
Sadly, the message of the world for addiction is that of an incurable, progressive, fatal disease leading to hopelessness. Therefore, Christians who counsel biblically have a far superior message in the Gospel that provides real hope. Continue reading
A white Crossroads Bible College alumnus started a conversation on Facebook seeking to understand the racial divide. After a few days he decided to close the conversation. Some, many of whom were Christians, could not engage in an edifying conversation.
We are living in a very divisive time. It is a time when Christian compassion, especially within the body of Christ, must provide the needed environment to soften and unite hearts! Continue reading
Since the attacks of 9/11, our nation has been engaged in war for the longest period in our history. As a result, we have a growing number of men and women who have returned from the battlefield struggling with posttraumatic stress.
For many veterans the transition from the battlefield to the home front proves to be very difficult. They struggle with nightmares, sleep disturbances, anger, fear, and sadness over the losses they have suffered. Continue reading
This past December’s BCC retreat addressed a number of provocative counseling methodology questions. As I reflected on these questions, I wondered if there was a single theme that captures what we’re after in our counseling approach. I believe 1 Corinthians 14: 1 is helpful: “Pursue love, and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts, especially that you may prophesy.” Much of what we aspire to in our methodology is summed up in those two commands: “Pursue love and speak prophetically.” Continue reading
The year ahead holds a lot of wonderful titles written by biblical counselors. Below is a sample of 2017 biblical counseling books and their descriptions. Continue reading
Christians must forgive. We understand from Matthew 18, and the parable of the “Unmerciful Servant” (Matt. 18:21-35), that Jesus expects us to forgive. But the divine command does not mitigate the emotional difficulty. Forgiveness is hard. That is especially true in cases where there has been a betrayal by a spouse. Continue reading