Counseling the Resistant Teen

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

In order to be prepared to encounter a resistant teen, it is helpful to gather data from the parents before you begin meeting with the teen. It takes some digging into their history in order to get an overall view of the teens. Teens are often unreliable historians because of their limited perspective and resistance to counseling. Continue reading

Creativity in Counseling Youth

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

In biblical counseling we often bring God’s attributes to bear on our counselees’ struggles. For example, God is most certainly an intelligent, creative artist. By making us in his image, God has given us many creative abilities. He has given us abilities to produce paintings, sculptures, music, writings, buildings, and more. We can also utilize creativity in biblical counseling, especially with young counselees who do not respond well to a conventional style of counseling. Creativity in counseling can be used as a means to open up discussion on pertinent topics as we seek to apply biblical solutions. Continue reading

Reacting to Your Teen’s Sexual Sin

Eliza Jane Huie

Eliza Jane Huie

As she sat across from me tears streamed down her face. Guilt and shock mingled in her words. Through brokenhearted sobs she shared with me how she and her husband had found significantly graphic videos on their 13-year-old son’s computer. Who was this person? She felt so confused, so betrayed. Their young teen was active in youth group, kind to his siblings, and sensitive to the needs of others. He was all a parent could want. Continue reading

The Soul of a Child

Amy Baker

Amy Baker

It has been my privilege to counsel an 11 year old recently who has abuse in her past. While we often think that children need a different approach to counseling (and we certainly want to tailor our teaching and interaction to the understanding of the child), it’s my observation that children struggle with the same desires adults struggle with, they are lured by the same lies that adults fall prey to, and they find hope in the same source adults find hope – in our Lord and Savior. Continue reading

Biblical Mentoring for Teenagers

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

“Mentoring” is a buzzword in our current culture. A quick google search on the words “mentoring teenagers” yields dozens of articles, blogs, organizations, and curricula to mentor teens in both the secular and Christian realms.

Biblical mentoring sets itself apart from many other mentoring strategies because it is not a program or a formalized ministry. Continue reading

Teens and Body Image

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

As I approached writing this blog post, I asked my 18-year-old daughter for input. I asked her what she would like counselors, youth workers, and parents to consider on this topic. She said this: “Body image issues are common, all girls struggle with it. Some of the prettiest, thinnest, and most attractive are the ones who have the most discontent with their bodies.” Continue reading

God’s Counsel About Counseling Youth

Rick Horne

Proverbs is about easy sex, easy money, good and bad friendships, beauty, fear of what others think of me, careless lending, laziness and work, pleasure and pain, impetuous angry reactions, unguarded careless speech, a good or bad reputation. The list goes on and on. Pithy statements about hundreds of life experiences that concern young adults and God’s wisdom for them all: that’s Proverbs. Proverbs is a young adults’ book. Continue reading

A Parent’s Role in Counseling Teenagers

Ellen Castillo

Ellen Castillo

There is a spiritual battle raging for the hearts and souls of our youth. Cynicism gives the enemy a victory. Hope defeats the enemy! Teens need to know that you are in their court and that you love them and so does God. They need to know that you believe in their potential to follow Christ (1 Timothy 4:12). Continue reading

The Seductive Lie of Immodesty, and Re-Claiming Your Identity in Christ

Marie Notcheva

Marie Notcheva

The Seductive Lie of Immodesty and Re-Claiming Your Identity in Christ

This is not another article on Matthew 5:28, hem lengths, or the horrors of uncovered shoulders. Today I’m writing more as the concerned mother of a teenage girl than as a biblical counselor. I want to take an unflinching look with young people of both sexes at the reality behind immodest dress; the desire to be desired; and where it can lead. Continue reading

Rape, Sexual Assault, and Consent

Justin Holcomb

With the prevalence of sexual violence, it is important to have a clear definition of sexual assault and consent. Many victims are not sure if what happened to them was assault, and the shame and pressure to remain silent lead to a recurring cycle of traumatization. Continue reading