Top Ten Posts of All Time – #5

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

If you are dating someone right now, are you scared to tell him or her about your sinful past? Whether you’ve struggled with difficult sins from the past, or you are still struggling with significant sins right now, it’s important to talk to your future spouse about these things. Continue reading

Handling the Nonstop Talker

Robert Jones

You face the awkward dilemma in both informal helping conversations and formal counseling sessions: How can I engage my counselee who dominates each counseling conversation with nonstop talking? Continue reading

Who Will Take the First Step? Godly Initiative during Nasty Conflicts

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

Jack and Jill fight often. He gets angry and lashes out. When he lashes out, she pulls back. She gets depressed. She doubts herself and God. (“Why would you put me in this marriage?”) They are humble enough to ask for help. That’s a fairly big deal, because too many couples who fight wait far too long to draw others in! How would you help them? Continue reading

The Limitations of “Compatibility” for Marriage

Brad Hambrick

Brad Hambrick

Too often we treat compatibility as it were a noun (something two people share – like a cupcake or eye color) instead of a verb (something two people do – like synchronized swimming or conversing). There is a big, often overlooked, difference between compatibility as a noun and as a verb. Continue reading

“Confessions” of a Poor Listener

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Today’s post is a “tongue in cheek” look at a very common problem we all have to pay attention to. We hope that you can not only snicker as you read but also be challenged to develop a key skill for relationship-building and counseling. Continue reading

The Process of Renewing the Mind (Part 2)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

In this second installment of a two-part series on renewing the mind, we consider some of the components of this crucial part of the Christian life. Recall from the last post how Pastor Mark had to help Jeremy, an emotionally distant husband, figure how he needed to change in order to honor God in his marriage. Continue reading

The Process of Renewing the Mind (Part 1)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

This post is part one of a two-part series on how we can guide counselees in the critical task of renewing the mind. In this first installment we are introduced to an insensitive husband and the pastor who has the privilege of helping him figure how he needed to change. Continue reading

Restoring Peace in the Christian Home

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Two couples in very different stages of life. And yet both of them had one thing in common: Their homes were being ripped apart by conflict. My challenge, as their counselor, was to figure out ways to help each of them restore peace in their homes. Here are a couple of tools I’ve used to help couples like them. Continue reading