Incarnating In Conflict

Eliza Jane Huie

Eliza Jane Huie

Incarnating means putting something into flesh. Jesus was God incarnate. God put on human flesh or, another way to say it, he was clothed in humanity. In a similar way, as believers, we are called to incarnate Jesus. We are to be clothed in Christ (Romans 13:14). And indeed we are (Galatians 3:27). As believers our lives become testimonies of this truth. Continue reading

The Beauty of Mediation as a Ministry Tool

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

I want to be a Christ-like counselor, don’t you? Well, a chief characteristic of our Lord’s ministry was that he was a reconciler of others to his Father. He served as an intermediary who was willing to sacrifice so that our chief relationship could be made right. Wouldn’t it make sense that if we serve as intermediaries to help others get right with one another that we are being like our Savior? Continue reading

Top Ten Posts of All Time – #2

Lilly Park

Lilly Park

My desire is that God might use this blog post to encourage those who are weary, to challenge those who are not trusting God or seeking counsel, and to provide some help to those who are not sure how to help women in emotionally abusive relationships. Continue reading

Top Ten Posts of All Time – #1

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

According the Bible, Satan prowls around like a lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8), but many times, he probably doesn’t have to do that much. I wonder if sometimes Satan sits back and laughs at us. We don’t need Satan to ruin our marriage. We do plenty of unhelpful things on our own to ruin our marriages. I’m sure Satan enjoys having a front row seat, watching our folly and foolishness. Continue reading

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Ernie Baker

Ernie Baker

Humans have a disease that eats away at the soul and relationships. It is a cankerous cancer that leads to shame and brokenness, and as it consumes, it perforates our relationships with God and others. Of course this disease, this cancer, is sin. Is there a soothing medicine that brings healing? Continue reading

The Culture of Abuse in Christian Slavic Marriages

Marie Notcheva

Marie Notcheva

Last weekend, my daughter and I attended a three-day Christian Slavic women’s retreat. Predictably, discussion turned to Lyuba Savenok, who was brutally murdered by her husband Yeveginy in May 2016 after years of verbal and physical torment. Both Lyuba and her husband were active members of their Minnesota church, to whom Lyuba had reported the abuse before filing a restraining order. What makes the Savenoks’ story so tragic is not just the shocking nature of the crime, but rather how familiar her situation was to many women married to Slavic men. Continue reading

Who Will Take the First Step? Godly Initiative during Nasty Conflicts

Deepak Reju

Deepak Reju

Jack and Jill fight often. He gets angry and lashes out. When he lashes out, she pulls back. She gets depressed. She doubts herself and God. (“Why would you put me in this marriage?”) They are humble enough to ask for help. That’s a fairly big deal, because too many couples who fight wait far too long to draw others in! How would you help them? Continue reading

The Process of Renewing the Mind (Part 2)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

In this second installment of a two-part series on renewing the mind, we consider some of the components of this crucial part of the Christian life. Recall from the last post how Pastor Mark had to help Jeremy, an emotionally distant husband, figure how he needed to change in order to honor God in his marriage. Continue reading

The Process of Renewing the Mind (Part 1)

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

This post is part one of a two-part series on how we can guide counselees in the critical task of renewing the mind. In this first installment we are introduced to an insensitive husband and the pastor who has the privilege of helping him figure how he needed to change. Continue reading

Restoring Peace in the Christian Home

Jeff Forrey

Jeff Forrey

Two couples in very different stages of life. And yet both of them had one thing in common: Their homes were being ripped apart by conflict. My challenge, as their counselor, was to figure out ways to help each of them restore peace in their homes. Here are a couple of tools I’ve used to help couples like them. Continue reading