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Taking A Time Out To Discuss Spanking

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by John Street, Ernie Baker, David Wheaton October 6, 2014
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Resisting Gossip Video Series, Lesson 10: Gossip and Our Church

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by Matt Mitchell October 4, 2014
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Resisting Gossip Video Series, Lesson 9: Regretting Gossip

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by Matt Mitchell October 3, 2014
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Resisting Gossip Video Series, Lesson 8: Responding in Love

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by Matt Mitchell October 2, 2014
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Resisting Gossip Video Series, Lesson 7: Responding in Faith

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by Matt Mitchell October 1, 2014
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Resisting Gossip Video Series, Lesson 6: Instead of Gossip: Listening

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by Matt Mitchell September 30, 2014
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lifes not fair commented on 10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart:

Nov 27

i wish there was more about women.  i hear men men men but hardly ever about women…

just want to know commented on 10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart:

Nov 23

Just wanted to know if things are better now, a year later?

NVA2013 commented on 10 Ways that Satan Loves to Watch Marriages Fall Apart:

Nov 22

Oh how I pray that my husband is being true to me.  Many times I wonder if there is really a thing called manifest destiny. This is my husbands 3rd marriage and my second.  We both brought children to this relationship from prior marriages. I realize the wrongs committed in my first marriage and swore that would not occur this time around.  We me with our pastor for months prior to our marriage to ensure we were ready to make this THE MARRIAGE that lasts forever. I asked many times if my husband was ready for this commitment and he seemed completely devoted.
  3 weeks after our wedding he started “innocently” talking with another woman.  This lead to him slipping into depression and spending time with her, lying to me, avoiding spending time with me and to this day - I am still not exactly sure on everything that happened between them but I know lines were crossed.  I continuously questioned the attitude he developed after the wedding and began questioning myself and my actions.  I eventually ended up at the Dr. office and on anxiety medication.
  I found text messages on his old cell phone- saying things no wife wants to see. I confronted “the other woman” that did not deny that he was having an affair with her.  When I confronted him, he ended things but didn’t seem to be as remorseful as I guess I needed him to be.  However, we hadn’t even mailed out our thank you notes from our wedding.  How do you end things at that point?  How do you walk away when you just uttered the words until death us do part? 
  Amazing enough, the weekend I found this information out.  Our pastors message was about how the devil gets into peoples minds.  NOT in the form of what we envision the devil to look like.  He gets in looking like “one of us”.  The message was powerful enough; I knew I needed to help my husband fight to be a better person.
We agreed that he seek counseling.  And that seemed to help him.  Things seemed to get better however I still fight the doubt (devil) that seems to sneak into my thoughts daily.  I battle with the idea that he is straying or will stray again.  I battle wanting to control every moment of his life to ensure he is being true to me.  I HATE the idea that he still has a cellphone that is “locked” so I can’t see what is going on during his day.  (In his defense I have never confronted him to allow me this access.  I feel it will show my weakness and lack of trust).
How do I full-heartedly put the past In the past once and for all? Is that even possible?  If not, how do I make peace with the past and not let it influence our future?

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