Confronting an Abuser

Since writing Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault, we have had the privilege of answering lots of questions from victims, those who support them, and even some perpetrators.

A frequent topic that has come up is confronting one’s abuser and those complicit in covering it up.While confrontation with an abuser may seem like the right thing to do, it is different for each person. For some it might be a great thing to do. They may confront their abuser, receive an apology, and feel a sense of freedom or closure. However, for others, confrontation may only worsen the effects of the assault.

There are five common questions regarding confronting a perpetrator. Before we answer those specific questions, we will summarize a fewfacts about sexual assault.

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Justin Holcomb

Adjunct Professor, Reformed Theological Seminary

Justin is an adjunct professor of theology at Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and Reformed Theological Seminary. He and his wife Lindsey are the authors of Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault and...

Lindsey Holcomb

Lindsey counsels victims of sexual assault and domestic violence, and she conducts training seminars to service providers and pastors. She previously worked at a domestic violence shelter and at a sexual assault crisis center. Lindsey has an MS from Touro...

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